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Anger is an emotion all of us have experienced not just once but lots of times.

Although anger is normal, when left unchecked it can have lots of negative effects on us. It can ruin relationships, ruin careers and in a worst-case scenario, it can even lead to committing a crime.

Therefore it is imperative that we learn how to deal with anger effectively.

Here are some practical anger management tips that you can use:

a. If you have a close friend or family member who is understanding and easy to talk to, it might be good for you to talk to them. As you know when an individual becomes angry this person becomes incapable of seeing the other side of the problem. Talking to someone may help you share your side of the story. It can also help you sort through the issues involved and make the party’s concerned look at (and hopefully clarify) the situation from both sides. This anger management tip may work well for some people.

b. Write down your thoughts and feelings during a fit of anger. You may feel as if nobody understands you or cares about your problems. Sharing may cause extra conflict. Lashing out will get you nowhere. On the other hand writing can help you deal with anger issues. Without anyone to talk back to you or object to what you have to say, writing can help you get your feelings off your chest and out in the open. This anger management technique can also help you identify the “triggers” that cause your angry outbursts. Thus helping you deal more effectively with them. By the way, if you use your computer to write your feelings while in an angry mood please don’t take it out on your keyboard.

c. Another tip that I’ve personally tried is this: Have you ever found yourself so angry with someone that you wanted to pulverize that person? Well you can’t literally do that because that would just make things worse. So one way to handle this situation is to go to the nearest gym and pound away at the heavy bag there. If no gym is available, get a large pillow and lock yourself in your room. Imagine that the pillow is the person who wronged you. Hold the pillow in one hand and punch the pillow as hard as you can with the other hand. Just the mere physical effort of pounding away will feel so good. By the time you’re through, your anger would have drained away. And no harm has been done.

d. Taking a vacation and spending some time alone is another good anger management tip. Temporarily remove yourself from the environment that seems to frustrate and irritate you. Getting away from the situation that triggered your anger may help you to see things differently. And possible solutions to the problem at hand may be identified.

e. Some people suggest prayer and meditation as anger management tips. Both of these suggestions involve very personal practices for an individual. Given a chance to pray and be alone with your thoughts is a good way to release tension and let the pressures of life drain away. Letting go of angry and negative thoughts will definitely make a positive change in your life. Through prayer and meditation you will be able to dig deep into your mind and soul for answers to your problems and comfort for you.

f. Other anger management tips you can use are: deep breathing, exercise, getting more rest, getting out in nature, finding humor in the situation, and playing or listening to music.

Since there are lots of anger management tips to choose from how do you select which one to use? The best guide is this: Select the tip which makes you feel good and drains your anger away without doing you or anyone else any harm.

To sum up: Although anger is normal, we should manage it properly to avoid all the adverse consequences uncontrolled anger can bring. In this article I have listed several practical anger management tips you can use. Just select the tip that drains your anger away and has no adverse consequences and you’ll be fine.

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of My-Personal-Growth.com, a site that provides information and articles for self improvement and personal growth and development. http://www.my-personal-growth.com

Many aspects of your environment are out of your control; what you can control is your reaction and relationship to them. In other words, learn where the currents run, learn where the obstacles are, and learn to go with the flow or steer clear of the rapids.

Here are 5 actions you can take to either work with or avoid obstacles that tear down your self-confidence.

1. Learn to identify your skills and strengths. Don’t fall prey to thinking that the solutions to your confidence issues are outside yourself. Understand that everyone has a talent, something that makes him or her unique and special. Know what yours is and learn to use it.

2. If you want to be a winner, learn to hang out with winners. If you find yourself surrounded by whiners, complainers, slackers, gossipers, backstabbers and patronizers, balance the time you absolutely MUST spend with them with equal or more time spent with positive, energetic, supportive, successful, and honest people.

3. Start practicing positive self-talk. What’s that, you ask? It can be many things, such as allowing someone to compliment you by being grateful and accepting it gracefully. Believe that you truly deserve it. Positive self-talk can be replacing the negative tapes that run through your mind with positive ones. Do you find yourself thinking “I could never lose as much weight as she did”, or, “I always try to think of something creative to offer in meetings but I never can”, or, “I’ll never be able to make friends as easily as he does”? You create your reality with your thoughts and words so choose them carefully.

4. Set realistic goals and take time to celebrate when you reach them. Don’t set the bar too high or you’ll be disappointed and lose motivation to try again. And even if you do fail, take the time to figure out what you did wrong and plan for success the next time.

5. Find your voice and use it. Finding your voice means saying what you need to say. It can be expressing unrequited love, asking the question everyone is afraid to ask, asking for help, asking someone to stop criticizing you, telling a joke, writing a letter to the editor, or placing a classified ad. Saying what you need to say isn’t about getting what you want. Your question may not be answered, the criticism may continue, or no one may laugh at your joke.

Saying what you need to say may mean hearing yourself for the very first time. You can evaluate your own reaction and take your next step based on how having finally expressed yourself makes you feel. If you ask for the criticism to stop and it doesn’t, you may feel empowered enough to leave the relationship or quit your job.

Finding your voice means being honest with yourself and portraying yourself honestly to others; it means engaging the human community in dialog, opening yourself up to hearing someone else say “me too!” and it means honoring your truth. Speaking out can help someone else avoid your lack of self-confidence or pain, and it allows others to share it.

By following these 5 steps, you can find joy, peace and courage. In order to change your life, first you need to acknowledge what needs changing. Then and only then can you take your place in the world with confidence.

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of My-Personal-Growth.com, a site that provides information and articles for self improvement and personal growth and development. http://www.my-personal-growth.com

You can improve your life by making thought out choices, taking responsibility for the consequences, and learning from mistakes.

You have the power of choice in your own life. Remember that, however, you do not have that power in other’s lives, you can only make decisions for yourself. Everyone from anywhere needs to take responsibility for their life and their choices. Often our outcomes are the consequences of our prior choices in life.

One thing that is very difficult for all of us to deal with is that we can only control the choices that we make, not the choices that others make. We can try to persuade, educate and inform to sway someone’s decision, but we have no control over that person’s end choice. The good thing is that we have complete and total control over the choices we make in our own lives, small or large. That can be a very powerful thing to have when you know and embrace that power.

Our Power of Choice

Power of choice is a wonderful opportunity we have in our lives, and some people do not even realize that we have this power. If there is something in your life that you do not like do not complain, whine or stress over it. You should figure out a way to change it to better your own life as well as those around you. When you are happy, those who truly love you will be happy as well. You have the power to choose what you do, why you do it, how you do it, and when you do it. You have the power to make thought out decisions that will make you happy.

Outcomes Are Consequences Of Choices Made

The outcomes of the choices you make are consequences. We can often associate the word consequence with a bad meaning, such as getting punished as a child. However, a consequence is something to learn from, grow from and use to get better with. It has nothing to do with your childhood, how you were raised and/or how you were treated. This is now, and now you are an adult. Use the consequences from your choices (good and bad) to learn from. Make the good outcomes even better, and the bad ones better too. You have the power to do that, but you can only do that when you take responsibility for the choices you make.

Being Responsible

One difficult part of learning from the choices we make no matter how small or how large is taking responsibility for them. When something goes wrong from a choice you have made you need to own up and say, yes, I made that choice and the outcome was not as I expected. I will learn from that mistake and make better choices for myself in the future. Even when you make a choice that has a fantastic outcome it can be hard to toot your own horn, but you should. Be proud of yourself for making a decision that provided a good outcome and keep trying to make choices that do make you happy.

Making Choices For A Better Life

Everything you do, you say is a choice. Even what you feel is a choice. When you go to work everyday at a job you do not like and complain about it - change it! Making yourself stressed and anxious over a job you do not like is a choice you made. Take responsibility for that choice, and start to make plans to change your past choices. Plan to get training for something you have a passion for, plan to go back to school or just get another job you would enjoy doing. You could even start a business using your own passions. These are all choices, but only you know what choices will better your life.

You Can Improve Your Life

Improve your life with the choices you make. Choose to be happy. If something stresses you out choose to calm yourself down, take a breather, take control, and get back on track with whatever you were doing. Make choices in your personal life, work life, leisure life, and school life that will make you happy. If you are in a relationship that does not seem to be working make a choice to work it out, express your concerns, or break it off. If you do not like your job make a choice to change what you do for a living. If you do not like where you live maybe you need to move or plan to move.

You have the power of choice in your life. Now you can use this power to your advantage to better your life!

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of My-Personal-Growth.com, a site that provides information and articles for self improvement and personal growth and development. http://www.my-personal-growth.com

The law of attraction is an immutable universal law which governs how our lives work at the deepest level. It is one of the most powerful forces in the universe and has been reflected in different ways in many different religions and philosophies.

Here are some definitions of the Law of Attraction that you have probably heard before:
* Like attracts like.
* Matter and energy are both attracted to things of like vibration.
* You are a magnet, attracting people, things and situations into your life.
* Energy attracts energy of like vibration.
* You get what you focus on whether you want it or not.
* Your thoughts have creative power.

There are also many common sayings that express ways in which the Law of Attraction works:
* Birds of a feather flock together.
* Like attracts like.
* Whatever you seek, seeks you.
* You reap what you sow.
* You’ll get what’s coming to you.
* Give and it shall be given unto you.
* What goes around, comes around.

Just reading these sayings can give you a glimpse of what the Law of Attraction is all about. The Law of Attraction is operating every moment to attract work, people, opportunities, money, answers and a lot more besides into your life. People are increasingly using this law to deliberately attract their desires into their lives, however the Law of Attraction is much more than a magic wand for manifesting, and will not provide the greatest blessings if simply used at this level.

Harmonizing with the Law of Attraction can bring your body, mind and spirit into balance and promote healing, peace, improved relationships and a totally transformed life. This will of itself enhance your ability to manifest your desires without this being your primary goal.

If you are interested in using the Law of Attraction to overcome real personal challenges such as recovering from trauma, the following four steps will help you to transform your life:

1. Stop talking about your problems. No matter how bad your difficulties are if you keep talking about negative feelings and terrible events, the Law of Attraction says you will attract more of the same into your life. This doesn’t mean that the same type of event or situation will come again, but situations and people that create the same negative energy in your life will be attracted to you. If you want the drama in your life to die down, try being silent. Don’t be discouraged if things don’t improve straight away, it took a lot of time to talk, think and feel your way into your current circumstances. So allow a little time for this energy to die down.

2. Pay attention to the way you talk to yourself. Most of our self talk is very negative. You’ll probably be shocked by the nasty things you say to yourself, once you start paying attention to your own self-talk. The words you speak to yourself reveal your beliefs about yourself and your place in the world. Identify those beliefs that are holding you back or are so self-attacking that it attracts an attack-energy against you from others as well as blocking the good that would otherwise come to you.

3. Change your beliefs and expectations. Another way to express the Law of Attraction is “you get what you expect”. If you have been disappointed so many times that you now expect disappointment (even subconsciously) then you will attract things that will cause you to be disappointed. In some ways, the Law of Attraction can seem very unfair and victimizing because if a person has been treated unjustly or, for example, and has been damaged by the experience, if he or she cannot forgive the perpetrator and release all negative emotions, more mistreatment will be attracted into his or her life. The victim continues to be victimized. It is important to understand that the Law of Attraction is impartial and does not judge the reasons for thoughts, beliefs and emotions and respond accordingly. Beliefs can be changed by challenging the relevance or truthfulness of the beliefs, using affirmations and with the help of therapies such as hypnosis, neurolinguistic programming and kinesiology.

4. Guard your emotions. More than anything else, our emotions have powerful attractive energy. If we regularly experience strong negative emotions such as anger, resentment or bitterness, these will cancel out any good work you are doing by using affirmations and controlling your thoughts. Develop strategies for coping with stress such as meditation, prayer, listening to relaxing music and exercising. If certain people and situations regularly upset you, stay away from them. Having calm, peaceful emotions most of the time is very important for manifesting good things in your life.

If you put these steps into practice you will be effectively removing obstructions which are preventing you from receiving your desires.

Most people would probably prefer to skip this hard work and go straight to using the Law of Attraction to manifest their desires, but if you will take the time to genuinely transform yourself, material manifestation will be all the easier.

Here are the steps for manifesting your desires using the Law of Attraction:

1. Know what you want. Be very clear about the details including why you want it.

2. Visualize yourself having already received it and imagine how that would make you feel this will create a positive attractive energy for your desire. You have, in effect, raised your vibration about it. Focus on this every day, as many times as possible.

3. Take action. This action needs to be inspired rather than humanly planned. Florence Scovell Shinn called it “following a hunch.” In a sense you are asking the universe to bring everything in your life into alignment so that you can receive your desire.

4. Be willing to receive it. This may seem like a strange step considering you have just gone through a process to manifest what you want. Yet, it is a stumbling block for many people. You may consciously desire to manifest something, but you may unconsciously believe you are not worthy of it in some way. If this is the case, you will not allow it to come to you. This is the reason that it is important to do the inner work first before you jump into manifesting things you want.

Feel thankful for your desire before you actually receive it. Trust in the processes of life and do not doubt because doubt cancels all your good work. Expect to receive it and be grateful for it. The universe will send it to you in whatever way it chooses. Do not try to control the way in which it comes. Trust that whatever is best will happen and relax. If you do this the Law of Attraction will work miracles in your life.

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of My-Personal-Growth.com, a site that provides information and articles for self improvement and personal growth and development. http://www.my-personal-growth.com

Whenever you start replaying conversations about what you could or should have said to someone else, as if you are still trying to change something that can’t be changed, you are wasting your energy.

A simple letter-writing exercise that many of my clients have used can help you re-energize yourself.

*If a relationship has ended

*If someone has power over you and you can’t confront them directly

*If someone has died

*If a stranger almost caused an accident

*If someone stole something from you or destroyed your property

This exercise can help you to stop obsessing about what happened and get on with doing what is important to you now.

You will need to write three letters, but the letters are not to be sent. They are a way for you to express important thoughts and feelings and to release your emotions. You do not ever have to show these letters to anyone else. If you want to, you can destroy them when you are done.

Once you get started, don’t think too much about what you are doing, just write without stopping until you feel finished.

The first letter is to the person you can’t stop thinking about. Write all your uncensored thoughts and feelings - even if you have said those things in the past. It is fine to feel anger and sadness as you write, just keep writing, even if the paper gets wet or torn.

In the second letter, act as if you are the person receiving your first letter, and answer it. As you answer the first letter, put yourself into the shoes of the person you wrote it to. Imagine that you are the person receiving and reading the letter you wrote.
Now write a letter back to you, as if he or she was actually responding to you. He or she may express anger, disbelief, sadness, or anything else. That person may ignore your points, justify their behavior, or be responsive to you in the letter. Even if you think the person you wrote to would refuse to respond, try to write what you imagine what they would think or feel.

The third letter is also from him or her back to you, but this time the letter is the letter you wish for, and says everything you want to hear.

Imagine that the person you wrote to understands what you said in your first letter, and is completely responsive to all of the points you made. He or she may apologize, express appreciation, or anything else you want - after all you are writing this letter to yourself to complete unfinished business, and you know what you need to hear.

When you have completed all of the letters, reread them, and decide what to do next. You may want to share parts of them with someone you trust. You may even want to share them with the person in question. Only you can decide.

Communicate skillfully about sensitive subjects. Http://www.DareToSayIt.com/blog
Laurie Weiss, Ph.D. is a Master Certified Coach and communication expert. Dr. Weiss has spent 35 years helping clients resolve conflict in business and personal relationships. Email feedback@laurieweiss.com

The single most important relationship skill is not communication, it’s taking ownership.

Successful relationships require taking ownership of your “experience.”

What is Your “Experience?”

Your “experience” is what happens inside your body and your mind in response to events. It is composed of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.

Your experience is involuntary, it just “happens.” It’s neither good or bad or right or wrong. Your experience is always OK and valid.

Your Thoughts

We spend a lot of time in our head listening to our thoughts. Sometimes thoughts just pop into our consciousness automatically, and sometimes we direct our thoughts with intentionality to solve a problem, express ourselves, make a decision, etc.

And some of our thoughts are judgments. A “judgment” is making a meaning or interpretation in response to an event (right, wrong, good, bad, theory, explanation, reasoning, logic, etc).

Facts vs. Judgments

You and a friend go for a walk. You say “It’s a beautiful day.”

Your friend responds “No, it sucks.”

Your reaction is to be surprised. You can’t imagine how anyone could experience such a warm, sunny day to “suck.” Your impulse might be to argue with them- “Are you kidding? Look at that clear blue sky. It’s a gorgeous day!”

This is a very small example of a huge dynamic that creates more relationship conflict than anything else you can imagine.

So let’s take a look at this. You observe the following facts:

The sky is blue

The temperature is 76 degrees

You are walking in a park

Facts are typically measureable events and can be observed through a video camera. If you poll 100 people about a fact, such as “Is the sky blue?” you will typically get almost unanimous agreement that it is blue (except from the color blind!).If you poll 100 people and ask “Is the sky pretty?”, you are asking for an opinion or judgment and will typically get less than 100% agreement.

Your experience of the day is positive. You interpret the blue sky as “beautiful,” the temperature as “perfect” and “comfortable,” and your body “feels good” to get exercise by walking. These are meanings you’ve created from your experience of the facts or events.

Your friend’s experience is negative. We don’t know why yet, but there are many reasons why they might judge the day to “suck.”

You Have a Choice

In the above example, you have a critically important choice to make in your response to your difference of opinion about the day-

Option 1: Focus on the difference (e.g. “Are you crazy? Look at that blue sky and tell me it’s not a beautiful day!”

Option 2: Focus on curiousity, compassion (e.g. “What’s going on for you?”

The unconscious knee-jerk response is often to focus on the difference in our experiences and judgments. This choice discounts and argues with any point of view that doesn’t mirror ours and leads to conflict.

It requires a conscious choice to accept differences and not impose our own experience and judgments on others. To come from a place of curiosity about and compassion for a human being who we care about who thinks and feels differently from ourselves.

The Importance of Ownership

It is not someone else’s fault that you are thinking or feeling something good, bad, or indifferent. It is coming completely from inside you.

The principle of ownership can be hard to grasp when our partner provides the trigger for how we feel and react, but the fact is that while our experience is involuntary, we do have complete choice over the meanings we create and the actions we take.

Behavior follows patterns. Nothing ever happens just once. If you don’t strive to take complete ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and judgments, you will follow a pattern of blaming others, playing victim, and your life and relationships will suffer.

How to Take Ownership- A Four Step Paradigm

I have found that the easiest way to take ownership of your experience in a relationship is to keep in mind the triad of Facts, Judgments, and Feelings-

Facts- usually a measureable event (”the sky is blue”)

Judgments- the meaning we make of the event (”the blue sky is pretty”)

Feelings- our emotions and sensations (warm, cold, happy, sad, etc)

Oftentimes, what we human beings do, especially when we’re upset or excited, is we make judgments about something and try to make that be the fact.

“You make me so angry.”

“You’re a jerk.”

“I love you.”

“War is hell.”

“Ice cream is good.”

These are all judgments you might feel so strongly about you believe them to be true. While they might be your personal truth at the time, they are not facts, no matter how strongly you believe them to be true.

It all starts with an event or stimulus. Something happens that gives us a certain experience.

Then, we react to our experience by making meaning of it and forming judgments.

Then, our judgments stimulate our emotions- mad, sad, glad, fear, shame.

And this all happens in the blink of an eye.

We can then react consciously or unconsciously. If we react unconsciously we will act out our feelings and judgments, whatever they are.

If we react consciously we will separate the facts from our feelings and judgments and then decide what meanings to make and actions to take.

This begins by reviewing the facts in your head and making sure you’re not mixing in judgments.

Step One: Review the facts

“OK, the sky is blue, we’re walking in the park together, the temperature is about 76 degrees, I just said “It’s a beautiful day” and my friend said “No, it sucks.”

Step Two: Review your judgments

“Hmm, I believe it’s a gorgeous day, walking here is wonderful, and I judge that my friend isn’t getting it at all.”

Step Three: Identify your feelings

“I’m glad it’s such a beautiful day, sad that my friend is troubled and not enjoying it, frustrated and angry at their negativity.”

Step Four: Make a conscious choice

Once you’ve separated the facts from your judgments and feelings you are in a much better position to decide what to think, feel, and how to react. Notice in the above example that the judgments and feelings are mixed, which is common. If you are conscious you can choose amongst the mix of judgments and feelings that you will embrace and act upon, and which you will discard or leave alone.

In the above example you might decide to focus upon your sadness that your friend is having a bad day and choose a compassionate response, and to discard your judgment that they aren’t “getting it.”

The Power of Taking Ownership

It is our nature to have lots of thoughts, judgments, and feelings; some that we want to identify with, and some that we don’t. It is common to confuse judgments with facts because we believe them so strongly. It is common to confuse feelings with judgments as well (e.g. “I feel like you’re so wrong about that!”). It is common to have conflicting reactions, such as “You’re a jerk” and “I love you” at the same time.

While our experience is involuntary and overwhelmingly strong and real for us at times, as conscious beings we can pick and choose our truth and what we say and do about it.

Therefore, we are responsible for what we feel, think, say, and do. There are no victims in the conscious adult world. Taking ownership gives us power over our choices and destiny, and thus is the key to a successful and happy life and relationship.

David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of the ground-breaking new book for singles Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today’s World. http://www.ConsciousDating.com/book.htm

It’s no secret that cigarette smoking is a deadly habit and that countless people suffer respiratory diseases as well as other ailments because of smoking. Furthermore, smoking also causes bad breath, coughing, and stained teeth - hardly things to impress people.

As such, it’s understandable that many people want to take smoking cessation steps and live healthier lives. Maybe you are one such person and are in the middle of a battle to kick the habit? Maybe you’ve even tried using a stop smoking drug and are wondering if there are other ways to quit smoking Well, look no further.

We’ve complied 10 ways to quit smoking, TEN TIPS that that you can practice as quit smoking aids. True, there’s no easy way to quit smoking but there are many things to do to combat the addiction and you will do well to at least try some, if not all of the following tips.

Smoking Cessation Tip 1 - Decide to Quit.
Wanting to quit is different from actually making a decision to quit. Declare it! Write a potential date for when you are going to quit, remind yourself that you have made up your mind about it. It all starts with a decision. The other ways to quit smoking will then come easier.

Smoking Cessation Tip 2 - Slow Things Down.
Smokers usually whip out their cigarettes the momen tthey feel the urge. The next time you want to smoke, slow yourself down and delay the process. Is there anything you can do instead of lighting up that very instant? Think of other things to engage in and leave your cigarettes alone for a while. This will help quit smoking.

Smoking Cessation Tip 3 - Get Rid of the #$%#$% Stuff!
Once you’ve practiced delaying the urge to light up, we suggest you quit smoking cold turkey. That’s right; just throw your cigarettes away. This will be drastic but it is a must. Get rid of your cigarettes. Throw away your ashtrays. Discard your lighters. This is one of the most important ways to quit smoking.

Smoking Cessation Tip 4 - Shake Things Up.
Rearrange your schedule so that your habits will loosen too. Eat at slightly different times of the day, switch your furniture around, and make your home different to what it was before. The mental effect is that you will acknowledge change, i.e., that things are different and you are no longer tied to the past.

Smoking Cessation Tip 5 - Distract Yourself.
The urge to smoke will still be strong, perhaps even stronger during this period. So whenever you fell like smoking, distract yourself with something - a movie, some gardening, a pet project, a jogging session. Just physically do something that will take your mind off the urge and onto something else.

Smoking Cessation Tip 6 - Carry Cigarette Alternatives.
You might want to arm yourself with candy, chewing gum, or even a toothpick. Whenever the urge to light up strikes, shove some candy into your mouth and start chewing instead of smoking.

Smoking Cessation Tip 7 - Celebrate Your Daily Victories.
If you get through a day without smoking, reward yourself with something - a favorite meal, a trip to the theater, a new book, a visit to the spa. It doesn’t have to be huge, just make sure you acknowledge your efforts with a prize.

Smoking Cessation Tip 8 - Bleach Your Stained Teeth.
Bleach your teeth and rid yourself of the discoloration that comes from smoking. A stained tooth is not nice to look at; imagine if all your teeth are just as ugly? This is another way to affirm your commitment to stop smoking. With tooth whitening, your smile will be better, your breath more fresh, your looks more appealing. Plus, you’ll be conscious of your teeth’s renewed pleasing look, making you think twice of smoking and discoloring them again.

Smoking Cessation Tip 9 - Think Positively.
Don’t think of what you’re denying yourself but focus on all the good things that are happening because you are quitting: better breath, better teeth, and better health. Think about the effects of quitting smoking to your friends and family too!

Smoking Cessation Tip 10 - Don’t Give Up!
It’s common for quitting smokers to lapse again and again back into smoking. If this happens to you, the key is to not give up. Continue with your smoking cessation steps and take stop smoking medication if necessary. You’re not expected to get it right the first time. If you fail and smoke a cigarette, don’t beat yourself up. Try it again. Continue to quit for as long as it takes. Good luck!

Ashley Truitt empowers men and women to increase their Wow Factor through personal development and
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No other subject inspires as much mythological fodder as hypnosis. It is surprising that during the age of information that many of these myths still remain and that people believe them to be true. Below you will find the truth behind 10 of the most prevalent myths about hypnosis.

MYTH 1
The first of ten myths about hypnosis and the one that seems to cause the greatest fear among people is the assumption that under hypnosis you have no control over your mind or your actions. This is simply not true. In a hypnotic state you do become more conscious of what you are thinking and feeling, but you do not become a puppet to a masterful hypnotist. A hypnotist may use suggestive words to help you focus your attention in different ways, however, you do not lose your ability to think on your own or to control your behavior while experiencing hypnosis.

MYTH 2
Hypnosis has ties to satanic practices. Hypnosis has no ties to Satanism or satanic ritual practices whatsoever. Satanic practices are seen as dark and unseemly with demonic undertones. Helping people to improve their lives is what hypnosis is really all about. That is in sharp contrast to the harmful practices that most satanic rituals are comprised of.

MYTH 3
Once you enter a hypnotic state you run the risk of getting stuck in that state permanently. It is almost unbelievable that people still believe this, but there are many who unfortunately still do, but hypnosis is nothing more than a deeper awareness of what you are thinking and feeling. It is not another realm of existence as some would have you believe.

MYTH 4
You have to be a specific personality type to be hypnotized. Wrong! In actuality we all enter into a hypnotic state almost every night. When we go to sleep our conscious and unconscious mind meet and go over the days events or even over past ones, creating the dreams we experience. Even if after wakening up you have no recollection of having had dreams while asleep, research has shown that all humans and animals dream while sleeping.

MYTH 5
Hypnosis can only work for weaker minded individuals and not for those with a resistance to hypnosis. In fact resistance is suggested by many hypnotists so that individuals can recognize the experience as being their own and not a product of a cleverly skilled hypnotist.

MYTH 6
Hypnosis is just a clever illusion that has no real useful purpose. Magicians put forth illusions to confuse what the eye and mind are seeing. A hypnotist is attempting to clear away any confusion that is acting as an obstruction to a person.

MYTH 7
Going to a hypnotist when you can learn how to hypnotize yourself is a waste of money. Self hypnosis has its value and it can be a safe and effective method of self improvement. However self hypnosis can exasperate mental conditions and traits such as negative thinking, and this should really be taken into consideration before writing hypnotists off as a waste of money. Your overall health should take precedence over financial considerations.

MYTH 8
The belief that hypnosis wipes away all memory of the hypnosis experience. Your memory skills are not lessened by hypnosis. In fact, hypnosis can be used to help you improve your retention skills and as mentioned earlier in this article, hypnosis is not another realm of existence. You do not lose knowledge of whom or where you are or become completely unconscious of the thoughts and feelings you are having.

MYTH 9
Hypnosis can be used to force people to confess to crimes they have committed. First of all, if a person is not open to disclosing a fact, hypnosis will not make it happen. Hypnosis can help a person to feel comfortable enough to make disclosures, but this is still a conscious choice. This is why confessions made under hypnosis are can not be used in criminal proceedings.

MYTH 10
A very dangerous myth is that hypnosis is a cure all. Hypnosis is useful in conjunction with medical treatments for a number of diseases, but it cannot cure them.

Hopefully now that you have been supplied with the truth about hypnosis you may choose to look into how helpful hypnosis can be for you.

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You may not be aware that you are practicing motivation techniques everyday of your life. This is initially seen when you force yourself to wake up early every morning to prepare for the long day ahead.

This is the same motivation that gets you through the tough day even though you felt that you cannot finish it in the start. And do you know what makes you make it through the day? Motivation. With this in mind, you are looking forward for the next day with the thought that you are getting closer to your chosen goal.

Sometimes you may feel like you just don’t have enough motivation to get you going. It is during these times that you have to remember some motivation skills so the going will not seem as tough.

What are these techniques?

1. Visualize your goal.

A goal is something that you can picture once in awhile or whenever you need to push yourself to do more. Take for example the process of losing five pounds. More often than not, you visualize yourself of someone you know who looks slim. That person serves as your visual motivation.

The best thing to do is put up a picture in a location of where you go everyday. It may be on your refrigerator door or beside the bathroom mirror. This way, you will be reminded everyday of the goal that you want to accomplish.

2. Reward yourself.

You may realize that you are losing some of your extra weight little by little. You can reward yourself with food or treats once you have gotten to your desired weight requirement.

You should promise to get yourself another reward if you get to the next weight loss level. This way, you have something to look forward to. Think of something that you really, realy wanted. That would be enough to reach you to your goal in the shortest time.

3. Write down your goals.

According to studies, people who write their goals have a better chance of keeping and attaining them. This is in contrast to just thinking and telling others about it.

Writing it out is like committing yourself to a contract that needed to be followed to the letter. This way, it is between you, yourself and your goal. After writing them down, put it somewhere where you can review and look them over or when you feel that you are losing track about where you are going.

4. Be confident.

Start wearing clothes that can shed off instant pounds. When you notice that there are changes in your body, do not slack off. Continue on doing what you have started and stay focused.

Show all your family and friends what you have achieved so far. Indulge in the praises and comments that they will give you. This does not mean that you need to stop and take it easy. Instead, it is a means that you are doing excellent and is halfway in achieving your goal.

These four motivation techniques are the ones that majority of people are using. It can be noted that these same techniques are also the ones that have helped many people achieve even the most impossible of goals. Why don’t you do the same?

Andrew Chin is a recognized authority on the subject of Motivation. His web site http://www.SelfImprovementsGuide.com provides a wealth of information on everything about Motivation.

You can’t get enough of something if it isn’t what you really need. This statement attributed to philosopher Eric Hoffer, is the basis of understanding all addictive behavior.

If you need something (perhaps rest), but think that you should not need it, you may stumble upon something that makes you feel better temporarily (perhaps coffee) and think that is a solution to your problem. However, no matter how much coffee you drink in an attempt to feel better, it only masks your exhaustion instead of providing the rest you really need.

Eventually, you get so accustomed to having large amounts of caffeine in your body that you need it to feel normal. No matter how much you have, it doesn’t feel like enough, because you don’t really need coffee, you need rest.

Everyone has similar basic physical needs, but our emotional needs are very diverse. An emotional need is something you MUST have for you to BE YOUR BEST. When I ask people to choose their top ten needs from a list of over 200 possibilities, no two people make the same choices. The more you know about what you really need, the more likely you are to be successful and happy.

Misidentified emotional needs lead to addictions too. If you did not grow up in an emotionally literate family, you may never have correctly identified your emotional needs. You learned to do whatever was normal in your particular family and if that happened to coincide with what you needed, great. If it didn’t, it was just too bad.

In fact, you may now find yourself repeating uncomfortable behavior patterns that seem to be a good idea when you were a child, but now cause you repeated problems.

If you learned to wait to be noticed and to be nice to others instead of asking for the recognition you needed when you were a child, you may still be doing the same thing now. But now you may be angry that others get more rewards than you do because they call attention to themselves, and you don’t.

Procrastination, repeatedly saying yes when you want to say no, and getting into relationships that hurt you are other examples of behaviors that are misguided attempts to get what you need.

Addictions to physical substances like alcohol, drugs and tobacco also start as attempts to get what you need. Unfortunately, the craving that develops from the use of these substances becomes a new problem that may be very challenging to solve.

Even when the addiction is treated, if the underlying needs are not addressed, those unmet needs will still cause distress. It is worth your time to understand your own needs and find effective ways to manage them.

When you do identify and accept your most important emotional needs, you can consciously arrange your life so those needs are regularly filled, giving you the vitality that comes from being your very best self.

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Laurie Weiss, Ph.D. is a Master Certified Coach and communication expert. Dr. Weiss has spent 35 years helping clients resolve conflict in business and personal relationships. Email feedback@laurieweiss.com