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Bill’s sitting in traffic, his attitude stinks, so he feels angry at the other drivers for being in the way. He wishes they’d disappear, they’re not even human to him anymore, and he doesn’t remember that they’ve got lives, destinations, concerns, joys, and dreams. He just wants them gone. He knows he did this to himself, by leaving too late to account for traffic. He hates being late, but he’s finding himself late more and more often. But, right before he left, he grouched at his family, couldn’t find his socks, and then decided he had to take a quick peek at email. So he left no room to spare in his drive time. And now he’s looking at a sea of brake lights, waiting through several turns of the traffic light. Fuming. He can feel his pulse on his forehead, a ticking bomb. Finally, he sees the hold-up, an accident. He feels awful because of his selfish impatience, for a moment.

OR

Tracy’s sitting in the same traffic jam, even though she left early. But she’s listening to an audio book, reading when she’s at a standstill, or taking the time to breathe deeply and meditate. She’s counting her blessings, taking time to be grateful for all that she is, has, and hopes for. She wonders about the other drivers around her, and notices some really grouchy guy in the car to the right. Looks like he might explode, is that his pulse beating on his forehead? She says a prayer for him and all the other drivers, too. She knows that when she finally gets where she’s got to go, she’ll be able to cope with any effects of being late from the traffic.

There is a world of difference between these two commutes. And it’s all because of attitude. No big surprise, your attitude affects your success in every area of your life, from your relationships to your finances, from your physical health to your appearance, from how long you’ll live to how effective you’ll be in your business.

An attitude is made of our thoughts, feeling, and ultimately, our actions. It’s formed in that order too. Our thoughts create our feelings which direct our actions.

Notice that thoughts come first. It might seem strange, because it certainly seems like our feelings hijack our thoughts and propel us into actions, not the other way around. But you’ll see, as we look at how your mind works, that your thoughts are the real powerhouse, the boss, the launch pad that sets everything else in motion. Each thought is powerful, for your good or your harm.

Feelings can be overwhelming, seemingly uncontrollable, driving you toward inevitable actions. It’s critical to learn how to control your feelings and actions before anything is set in motion. Either way, for good or for bad results, our thinking and feeling determine how things work out in our lives. Our results are just that, the effects of what’s going on inside us.

Before you can really get going on the direction of change, you’ve got to do an attitude check first. You can read until your eyeballs fall out and your fingers get calloused from turning pages, but without the right attitude in place, you’re wasting your time. With a poor attitude, there’s no information on Earth that can help you change your life. Take a look at your attitude about yourself, your life, the people in your life, your finances, your health, and your place in the universe. How does it look? There are lots of things in life you really don’t have much of a choice about, but your attitude is not one of them. Your attitude is completely up to you. We can tell you right away, that a positive, grateful attitude is the best way to go. Gratitude, for what you’ve already got, for where you live, who you know, all that you are, and all that you’re not, is the place to start. How can you ever expect to receive more in life, to be more in life, without appreciating how far you’ve already come?

Your attitude is a choice. Success is all about making great choices, and this is the first one you need to tackle. It might take practice. It might take reminding yourself. It might even take a “fake it ’til you make it” stance, but you’ve got to do it.

Andrew Cocks and Terry Zambri are Certified Bob Proctor Life Success Consultants and Network Marketing Coaches. Their new FREE book, The Life Success Factor, combined with their exclusive 3 step marketing system is creating massive success for their team. http://www.TheNetworkMarketingCoach.com

Interacting with the opposite gender can be lots of fun. It can also, from time to time, be a hair-pulling experience.

Bottom line is this: we think differently, process information differently, and whether liberal or not, society holds different expectations for each gender.
So, as much as we’d like to operate in a gender-distinction-free world, we don’t.

Given this, how can you develop confidence with men?

First, some prerequisites to confidence in general:

Strong sense of self-Know who you are, and what’s important to you Self-acceptance-Love yourself-truly!
Manage your boundaries-What are they? Define them? What can people no longer do to you? What’s your response when they violate them? Assertiveness-Say what you mean, and mean what you say always! Don’t back-off just because someone else is laying the guilt trip,or intimidating you(there are other articles on this site addressing the above)

Now, let’s talk about confidence in the context of friendships/relationships with men.Get clear on what’s important to you in your friendships and relationships:

Have a clear understanding of your values, interests, and boundaries. Write down what’s important to you, communicate them, and expect everyone around you to respect and honor those things. Get that there are differences, but that the similarities often outweigh them:

Hormones, chromosomes, and life experiences all result in the subtle, and not so subtle differences between men and women.You may want to ask your male friends for their perspective regarding what they think are some differences, and how they interpret them. But remember, that above all we are all human therefore we share many basic needs, interests and emotions!

So, after you get over his manly attraction, shift focus and see him as just another person. Remember that Gumby was single:

Of course, all relationships require some degree of flexibility. But, the key here is this: don’t try to bend and shape yourself based on what you think men want. Be yourself, and you will find someone who values you as you are, without the backache. Reflect on what’s important to you, and figure out where you are willing/unwilling to be flexible in a relationship with a man.

Inquire to understand:

Really, same rules apply with men as they do with a new female friend, etc. Be curious, inquire, and get to know who this guy is. What are his needs, wants, and interests. How do they match up with yours?

Appreciate a different perspective:

There’s always something to be learned from difference. Men sometimes think women are too emotional. Women sometimes think men are too shallow.

There’s something to be said for each perspective: sometimes it behooves us to just relax and not react, just as sometimes we can enjoy ourselves more if we appreciate the simple things in life rather than look for the deeper meaning behind every action or event.

Learn how to complement one another:

Yin and Yang.

Night and day.

Men and women-same concept.

The world could not continue to revolve without the different perspectives. We complement one another.
Your job is to find someone who complements you. What are your strengths as a woman? What are your challenges as a woman?

As you meet men, learn about their strengths and challenges and how you might complement one another.

Now get out there and mingle! And, create or find a few affirmations/mottos to keep you inspired and confident. Some of my favorites include:

I am worthy! There’s someone for everyone! We all have a soulmate, but. We don’t just have one soulmate!

Sean McPheat is the CEO of The Life Coaching Studio
http://www.lifecoachingstudio.com

There’s a thing called autosuggestion, and by regularly reviewing the details of your goals, you’re doing it. When you give your goal the focus factor, you visualize it and firmly plant an image of achieving this goal into your sub-conscious mind. You’ve made a massive deposit into the vault, and now it’s going to start vibrating, attracting results that will bring it to fruition.

Make this process work more efficiently by rewriting this goal in great detail every day for a month. Use your Vision on Demand technology to visualize it, and turn it over and over in your mind, adding in all of the sensory details. What are the sounds, sights, smells, tastes, feelings of achieving this goal? Give your goal the focus factor daily, because doing this is like fertilizing the seed you’ve planted. Keep the weeds away by rejecting thoughts that contradict your goal. Protect it. You don’t want to parade your dream in front of people who don’t get it, and don’t support your efforts. They’ll spray their toxic beliefs all over you, and you’ll have a harder time if you allow yourself to be exposed to that.

By getting your goal crystal clear in your mind, down to the smallest detail, and by visualizing yourself as already having achieved it, you put yourself into a great vibration. You need to understand that by doing this, you have your success already, in your mind and your emotions. All that separates you from having it physically is time. How much time? Just the right amount and probably less than you’d imagine. How will it happen? The how will appear if you stay focused on the what of your goal.

There will be days when your goal seems impossible. If your goal is big enough, you’ll run into obstacles. Most obstacles are big enough to stop most people in their tracks. You’ve got to want your goal badly enough that you won’t let go. The emotional ups and downs of going after something big are just part of the journey, you learn to course-correct, to find more effective ways to go for it.

Your job is to take massive, meaningful action in the direction of your goal. Carry your goal with you on an index card. Just knowing it’s with you, just touching that card in your pocket is enough to remind and recharge you. Focus on your vibration and your actions rather than results, focus on your vision. Keep walking, running toward your goal day after day.

Andrew Cocks and Terry Zambri are Certified Bob Proctor Life Success Consultants and Network Marketing Coaches. Their new FREE book, The Life Success Factor, combined with their exclusive 3 step marketing system is creating massive success for their team. http://www.TheNetworkMarketingCoach.com

Just as there are physical laws that govern how the physical world works, gravity, for example, there are also laws that govern how the universe works. Understanding these laws is critical to achieving success, learn them and work with them, not against them.

1. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation

Basically, this law states that what starts as energy changes into what is physical. Everything around you, everything you see, hear, smell, touch, or taste began as energy.

The vibration of that energy forms what is physical. Everything is in constant motion, and that motion is always changing. Energy can not be created or destroyed, just moved and changed. Our thoughts make themselves manifest in the physical world. In other words, what we think about, we bring about.

2. The Law of Relativity

The way we perceive any object, thing, person, or idea is always relative to how we see another object, thing, person, or idea. It’s the way we gauge what we see, bigger, smaller, good, bad, better, worse. The whole universe is designed to work together, with all the laws corresponding rather than conflicting.

All the laws apply equally to everything in the universe regardless of their size, strength, or awareness of the laws. Everything in the universe has its own rate of vibration, high, low, and in-between, we can only evaluate the rate of vibration based on a comparison with the rates of other things.

In your life, you see this law played out as you compare yourself to other people. You are reasonably attractive, right? Now, say someone enters the room who has entirely unfortunate looks, you feel simply gorgeous in comparison. But what if a supermodel enters the room next? How good-looking are you then? It’s all relative. The core of this law is that everything in life just “is”, our perception shapes how we experience it.

3. The Law of Vibration

This law says that nothing is at rest in the universe, it’s all constantly vibrating. Our awareness of that vibration is what we call feeling. Our feelings are determined by vibration, and we determine our rate of vibration by our thoughts and the paradigms we use to look at life.

You’ve experienced this if you’ve ever walked into an office or house where people were just quarreling. The tension in the air is thick enough to cut with a knife, and you instantly know you’ve interrupted something unpleasant.

Our thoughts consist of vibrations we send out to the universe. When we focus or concentrate on our thoughts, the vibrations grow stronger. Thoughts are the strongest vibration to move through the universe.

God created the whole universe, all that there is, seen and invisible from nothing, using thoughts and words. People are the only creation who share the power of thought with the Creator, and that makes us special.

This power to think, this gift of spirit, is what it means to be created in the image of God. Our thoughts and prayers are very powerful, affecting the physical world we live in.

Our awareness of vibration is what we call our feelings. We see what it’s like to be in a negative vibration when we say, “I feel bad today.” A positive vibration shows when we say, “I feel great today!”

Since vibration originates with our thoughts, we can control whether we live in a positive or negative vibration pattern. You use your brain to choose which thoughts you’ll entertain, it doesn’t choose a vibration itself. You’re the master of your thoughts, of your vibration. Your thoughts steer your central nervous system into the vibration you choose.

Your mind is a storehouse of images, positive and negative, whatever you allow to take up room there. If you choose to dredge up, examine, and review the negative, you will move into a negative vibration, negative feelings will immediately follow. The reverse is true, positive thoughts lead to positive vibration and a positive mood.

4. The Law of Polarity

Everything has an equal opposite, up and down, good and bad, empty and full. There is no such thing as a one-sided coin. No object has only a left side without a right side.

Because everything not only has an opposite, but the opposite is also equal, we’ve got an immutable law that we can understand. If you measure the room and find it is eighteen feet from the wall to the door, you’ll find it’s also eighteen feet from the door to the wall.

Seems pretty obvious, but the understanding of this law will really change how you look at life. Say something you think is really bad happens to you, according to the Law of Polarity, there must be something equally good about it, too. Mathematically, if something happens to you that you see as only being a little bit bad, the flipside is that there’s also a little bit of good in that, too.

Because of the Law of Polarity, you also get to choose your thoughts on every occurrence in life, is this a good thing or a bad thing? In reality, it just is. But you have the privilege of interpretation, you can choose to view it as a positive or a negative. From that choice, you set vibration in motion, determine your feelings, and ultimately your actions and results.

5. The Law of Rhythm

The whole universe moves in a repetitive rhythm. The tides, the seasons, day and night, we can count on these regular patterns to stay constant. If anything moves forward, something else must move backward; if anything grows greater, something else shrinks.

Every action causes a reaction, and results in a rhythmic swinging of vibration. You see this law at work every day in the peak and decline of your energy, the ups and downs that you experience, the way that our days are sometimes full and busy and sometimes slow and lazy.

It’s helpful to realize that our moods have a natural rhythm of ups and downs, and that even in the midst of a relatively down mood, we’ve still got control of our thoughts. Choosing good thoughts, even when we feel down, propels us into a positive vibration, evening out our emotions and keeping us moving toward our goals.

6. The Law of Cause and Effect

This law states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. What you send out into the universe comes back. Luck, chance, and accidents are non-existent. Everything in the universe is subject to universal laws, and everything that happens does so because it was caused.

We see the result of this law in the physical world, in our health, our bank accounts, and how people treat us. The way we get results we want is by working on the cause behind them. A changed cause must produce a changed effect.

One way to change your cause is to focus on it, using positive affirmations to point you in the direction you wish to go. In each area of your life, develop positive statements you can repeat in your mind regularly. These affirmations should be in the present tense, carefully crafted to focus you on what you really want.

7. The Law of Gender

This law describes how every seed has a gestation period. We see it in nature all the time, you plant carrot seeds, and can expect to wait about seventy days before the carrot is ready to eat. If you conceive a child, it takes about forty weeks for the baby to be born.

The same is true for ideas. They are spiritual seeds, and take time to become manifest. You must be patient when you plant a spiritual seed, an idea. It will show itself in physical form when the time is right.

Every idea that is given energy moves into the physical world. Everything in the universe has a masculine and feminine side. We see it in every person and animal, and even in the plant world.

The principle of both male and female in all things makes potential, regeneration, and motion possible. Both male and female are required for life to exist. This law demonstrates how everything comes about, how things change from what they were into what they become.

You may be familiar with some of these concepts, the structure and function of your mind, and the universal laws of the universe. Some may be completely new to you.

Understanding them is so important in the process of achieving your dreams, of living the purpose-filled life you were designed to live, of living in a way that is fulfilling and proactive.

If you’re serious about making changes, about winning in life, about living up to your potential and helping everyone around you to do the same, you’ll commit yourself to learning these Laws of Success.

Reflect on them, discuss them, and do all you can to comprehend them, teach them to others, too. The more aware you are about how it all works together, the more you can put these ideas and laws to work for you so that you’ll experience more success and less frustration.

Andrew Cocks and Terry Zambri are Certified Bob Proctor Life Success Consultants and Network Marketing Coaches. Their new FREE book, The Life Success Factor, combined with their exclusive 3 step marketing system is creating massive success for their team. http://www.TheNetworkMarketingCoach.com

Coaching is, by far, one of the most effective and efficient ways to move ahead to success. Winners choose to hire a coach because they’re ready, ready to succeed, ready to make their dreams a reality. They know that professional coaches can help them see their goals become reality more quickly, with a lot less stress and strife, and with results that are even better than they ever imagined.

What do you really want, anyway? Seems like a simple, innocent question, right? Yet lots of coaching clients start with this as their biggest puzzle. How can you work toward a goal you don’t really have? Your coach has seen this a million times, and will work with you to discover what you really want, if you don’t already know. Chances are that you want more than one thing. Your coach can help you prioritize your goals and create an action plan before you get moving. Coaches also help you see what potential obstacles lie in your path, and help you formulate a strategy to move past them as they arise.

Nothing gets past your coach, and this works in your favor, too. Your coach will hold you accountable to doing what you say you’re going to do. This is really important because of how much easier it is to talk the talk than to walk the walk. Talk is cheap, and your coach is there to make sure you take every action you decide to take.

Why doesn’t everyone have a coach? Well, most people who don’t have a coach don’t “get it” and don’t understand the value of personal coaching. Some think they can’t afford to hire a coach. They look at the price tag and compare it to their bank account; they do the math and say, “Nope.” That’s their biggest mistake, basing their decision on where they are right now. Coaching is a profession that’s experienced huge growth over the past few years. Coaches don’t stay in business long without having measurable success with their clients. If a coach has been around a while and can show how they’ve helped others, you can bet they know their stuff.

In fact, if you do some research, you’ll find testimonials from clients who’ve experienced a return on their coaching investment of more than 100%. That’s the report across the board. You’ll hear clients say, “It was the best money I ever spent. I wish I did it sooner.” It’s a way of putting your money where your mouth is, a way of anchoring yourself to your success plan.

Are you holding off on hiring a coach because you think the timing isn’t right yet?. Or are you waiting for the stars to align, and your life to be in perfect order first? Chances are, your life will never be less busy, have less pressure, responsibilities and obligations. Are you going to let your life get in the way of your dreams? Your coach doesn’t have the power to stop the clock, but can definitely help you find more time. You’ll learn how to wring the most out of every moment, both in your business pursuits and personal life. You’ll find yourself more effective, more present, and more efficient.

You might wonder whether hiring a coach is the best possible use of your money. I mean, isn’t it the same, just reading a good self-improvement book? You can put that info to use on your own, right? Yes and no. Books are great, they help you open your mind to new, more helpful ideas. They give good information. But, they fall short in one area. No book can magically bring about the results you want. Having information is necessary, but not sufficient to achievement. Only consistent, massive action moves you along the path to success.

You may believe that if you just work harder, you’ll succeed, with or without a coach. Good luck with that! You may succeed, of course, but at what cost? You can trade your every waking moment for money, work like a dog, and never take a break, but you’ll be left with calloused hands, a drained brain, and a family and friends that don’t even recognize you. Your coach specializes in helping you work smarter rather than harder. You’ll learn how to eliminate activities that aren’t helping you, how to make space in your life for what really matters, and to align your priorities with your calendar. Companies spend millions to hire efficiency experts, you’ll get the same benefit for pennies on the dollar.

Andrew Cocks and Terry Zambri are Certified Bob Proctor Life Success Consultants and Network Marketing Coaches. Their new FREE book, The Life Success Factor, combined with their exclusive 3 step marketing system is creating massive success for their team. http://www.TheNetworkMarketingCoach.com

Say you want to make a change in your life. What do you do?

Will simply wanting to change your life someday make it happen?

Probably not.

Will putting that wish in writing make it happen? Maybe, but probably not.

To make a significant change in your life, you’ve got to go about it the right way, or else it will fall by the wayside like a wish to start your own business, stop smoking, or learn another language. There’s a world of difference between wish making and decision making. Decision making is your key to success.

The word decision actually means to cut off all other options. That’s pretty decisive. For many different reasons, some people have a really hard time with decision making.

Maybe they’re afraid they’ll get themselves into a bad situation with no way out. Maybe they fear they’ll fail, so they don’t even go for it. Maybe they’re worried about what other people will say.

Even though many people would certainly say they wish they could make more money, be happier, get along better with others, get in shape, or live in a healthier way, for most people, it’s always just a wish. Moving from wish to decision is crucial for anyone who wants to make a big change.

We make decisions all the time, whether we’re aware of it or not. Some decisions are made in auto-pilot mode, and that works well in some cases, but not in others.

When you engage in a bad habit, you’re making a decision to continue self defeating behavior. When you engage in positive behavior, you decide to do that, too.

We make decisions based on our thoughts and emotions. Then our decisions bring about our actions, and our actions bring about results.

So how do you do what you need to do? You start with a committed decision. What do you want? How do you plan to get it? What’s involved, what’s required of you in order to move forward toward your goal?

One decision you make stays the same during the whole journey toward your dream, that decision is your goal, what you’re aiming for, what you want.

On the way there, you’ve got a host of decisions to make, too. Each day, you decide what attitude you’ll have, what you’ll do with your time and energy, how you’ll talk and think about your goal, what tactics you’ll engage to move forward. Each decision you make automatically cuts off lots of other options.

One of our clients, Pam, decided to start a Network Marketing business last year. She decided that within a year, she’d be at the level where she’d get paid to drive a white Mercedes-Benz.

She decided that she’d build her business by building a team of other motivated consultants. She decided that she’d do whatever it took to get to her goal, even if it felt uncomfortable. She’d do it even if it felt hopeless. She’d do it even if she didn’t feel like it.

Each day, as she got ready to work her business, she knew what to do. This is because her decision determined her to do list.

She’d cut off her other options, it wasn’t an option for her to spend the day watching reality tv. It wasn’t an option to quit after ten people in a row said, “No thank you.”

Now, a year later, she’s right on the edge of qualifying for that car! If she’d been wishy-washy all along, she’d probably have quit. Making a decision and sticking with it has been her key to success.

Andrew Cocks and Terry Zambri are Certified Bob Proctor Life Success Consultants and Network Marketing Coaches. Their new FREE book, The Life Success Factor, combined with their exclusive 3 step marketing system is creating massive success for their team. http://www.TheNetworkMarketingCoach.com

How do you go about building a healthy, positive self-image? One way is to model the beliefs, habits and behaviors of winners. Winners have a healthy form of tunnel vision. They make a habit of focusing on their infinite potential. Their present circumstances serve to motivate, or else are ignored.

Your beliefs about your potential point directly toward your self-image. Your self-image is simply your picture of yourself, of your abilities, of your worthiness to succeed, of your limits. Some people seem to come by a healthy self-image naturally; most of us need to work on improving how we see ourselves.

The great thing is that there’s nothing in the world that can keep you from improving your self-image. You can’t do much about what you have believed about yourself in the past or done in the past, but you have complete control over what you’ll believe in and participate in now.

What does it take to improve your self-image? The first step is deciding to consciously work on it, deciding to adopt a winners image.

Here are 4 important steps to follow to improve your self-image:

Watch what you say to yourself.

It’s amazing how we’ll allow ourselves to say things to ourselves that we would never tolerate coming from someone else. If the mean words that come out of your own mind about yourself came out of the mouth of a stranger, you might be hurt, but you’d certainly think, “This guy’s nuts, talking to me like that.” If the same mean words were addressed to your child or your best friend, you’d run to their defense with a big “How dare you?” on your tongue. We’ll talk soon about how your mind works, but let’s just say for now that it’s not discriminating in what it believes, if it comes from your own thoughts.

Watch who you hang out with.

Negativity is contagious, and gossip is a hard habit to shake. Obviously, if you spend time with people who are critical, who tear others down, you’ll catch it too - in two ways. You’re more likely to think and talk that way about others and yourself, and, those same people probably talk about you when you’re not around, too. Surround yourself with positive people, people who are seeking to grow and improve. We really do become like the people we surround ourselves with, so be particular.

Watch for the positive.

Because negative thinking about ourselves and everything around us is so habit-forming, it can really sneak up on us. Make a point of searching for what is positive, lovely, perfect, wonderful, timely, gracious, and good. Do this about the people you interact with and about yourself. It forms a new habit building, rather than destroying.

Watch your tongue.

Be very careful about what you say. If you catch yourself berating yourself, or another person, stop. Take a moment, turn around in your tracks, and go the other way. Guard your heart and your lips from speaking evil. People have enough catch-up work to do on their self-image from all they heard about themselves long ago without you adding to it and that goes for yourself, too.

As with everything you do to grow and improve, it takes action and patience to see results. This effort is completely worth it though, because your success in life can never exceed your self-image.

If you want more in your life it’s time to forget the past and start NOW to shape a new, winning self-image.

Andrew Cocks and Terry Zambri are Certified Bob Proctor Life Success Consultants and Network Marketing Coaches. Their new FREE book, The Life Success Factor, combined with their exclusive 3 step marketing system is creating massive success for their team. http://www.TheNetworkMarketingCoach.com