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Should you give them another chance when they cheat? The experts answer that question by saying that in general, if you do, they will cheat again, and the relationship won’t last or you’ll just be left in a relationship where you endure continual cheating. So the answer to “Should you give them another chance?” is, in most cases, a resounding no.

While many cheaters don’t get caught, most slip up one time and that one time is all it takes for their partner to find out. Most of the time these partners are suspicious but waiting for the ‘proof’. The ramifications of being caught are usually pretty earthshaking, because most spouses, especially men, answer no to the question of “Should you give them another chance?” Cheating destroys trust, say the experts, and in relationships trust is one of the most, if not the most, important ingredient to a lasting loving life together.

What’s so discouraging is that relationship experts have determined that three fourths of men cheat on their partner in their committed relationship. What’s even more surprising is that half of the women do too. In other words, most people cheat on their loved and loving partners. Cheating is one of the most demoralizing and hurtful things anyone can do to their life partner. So deciding if they should give them another chance is also deciding if they should let themselves risk being exposed to that type of hurt and pain all over again.

Most people opt out of the risk. Most people who are the victims of the cheating partner can’t forgive and forget. They can’t get back to a place of trust and respect. Even those who try to do so, and try to take them back find themselves suspicious all the time, accusatory, angry and not able to resume the love and the trust. Sometimes they can’t resume the sexual relationship. Which exacerbates the chances that the cheating will start again.

Experts say that a long term relationship can survive one partner’s cheating but it’s not likely that it will. The answer to “Should you give them another chance?” has as much to do with the fact that try as you might it’s just not going to be rekindled as it does with not taking the chance on being cheated on again.

If you’re going to give them another chance, you should only do so if the cheating was a one-time fling. If it was a long term affair, watch out. Not only has your partner been a clever, manipulative and calculating liar for a very long time, but he or she is not likely to be over that other woman or man, nor is that third party likely to give up without a ‘fight’. You may be in for a long and painful fight to keep your partner from the lover. And you could very well lose.

Jane Saeman runs a site called http://www.Hot-Firefighters.com along with info on dating and relationships on her blog at http://www.Hot-Firefighters.com/blog2

After you get to know a girl and both of you arrange a date to go out and have some fun, it’s a good idea to treat the date the same way you would treat an outing with a girl you’re not attracted to.

Reason for this is that this will put you in a mindset that stops you from thinking or doing silly things, which causes you to come across as being too desperate and seeking for approval.

Put another way, any relationship, whether between a man or woman or even a business relation for that matter, will have the best chance of flourishing only if all parties respect themselves, and not appear too needy.

Having said that, some or my subscribers feel that being something they are not, is being untrue their nature. So “pretending” to be suave or be some sort of casanova is not what they are comfortable with.

The truth is, we don’t have to be a James Bond to produce the right vibes in others. A plain looking joe can incorporate the correct charming behavior in his speech, body actions, eye contact and through practice, allow these actions to be a natural part of him.

Put in another perspective, if not paying attention when a lady is sharing her thoughts, being unprepared for a date, being too slack in ones dressing is what one deems as normal behavior, then perhaps a paradigm shift in the way one thinks is in order..

After all, if a man can’t take care of himself, how can he take care of a beautiful woman?

So in essence, a man must be sure of himself and this comes from preparation, and shaping our mind to think in a certain way.

Tip #1- Have no expectations or preconceived notions

Some guys have the notion that so long as a girl goes out with them, she is interested in him. This could not be farther from the truth. Girls would go out with you simply to have a good time and get to know you, that’s it. Don’t think too deeply into it, because if you do and you start to give a lot in terms of time and money, you will feel short changed when the thoughts and feelings you conjured up are not reciprocated.

Don’t forget, she could be looking around, so there is no obligation for you to give away the entire farm for someone who is not even your girlfriend.

Tip #2- Your time is precious too

That’s right your time is important. The value you give yourself is the same value people will place on you. When you give something away too freely, it will not be appreciated simply because no one paid for your time. Charge $500 for 1 hour consultation, and you’ll find how valuable your time is to those who pay for it.

Tip #3- Always know what’s going to happen next

Be prepared for a date, the same way you would take care for a friend from overseas. So if the experience was pleasurable for the lady, she would most surely be interested to go out with you again.

Again, although you’re planning a date to provide a nice experience for your lady friend, it does not mean that you’re going to appear needy. Rather, these actions stem from a part of you which is a nature of excellence and caring enough to let someone have a good time.

The motive behind the action is the defining criteria. And she knows the difference.

Tip #4- Have fun and flirt by responding

Bring her to a place where she can unleash her flirty nature. If she’s a good girl, she would probably be shy, and don’t want to feel embarrassed or look desperate by making the 1st move to have physical contact. So its important for the man, to initiate opportunities for some light skin contact.

Light skin contact can mean taking a photo together with your arms around her, or you reading up on some basic palmistry and offer to “study” her palms, which would of course require you to feel her hands. It’s nothing hardcore, just light casual contact, enough to get the blood pumping, increase the heart rate and bridge the air gap between you and her.

Of course to do this, you’ll need to put yourself and her in an environment where natural fun and flirty moments are asking to happen. It could be while you’re having a chat in a quiet botanic garden, or a scenic view in your car near the beach, where quality one on one conversations can develop into light physical contact.

This article was written by Sherman. If you’re looking to attract that beautiful girl to feel chemistry for you, there are fresh ideas here that allow you to charm her in a natural fashion, without getting overly conscious of yourself. http://www.successwithbeautifulwomen.com

There is one question I get ALL the time from my readers…

Typically it’ll be something like this:

“Scott, I’m pretty good with women. I can flirt with them and make them attracted to me. But when it comes time to make things more intimate, I have trouble bringing women back to my house. How can I make a woman want to go back to my house”

From the amount of emails I receive, this problem seems pretty widespread. Fortunately there is a very simple technique for getting a woman back to your home.

Here’s how to do it…

First you must understand something about meeting and attracting women:

If you can’t get a woman back to your house, you have NO chance of seducing or having sex with her. You can try every pick up or attraction trick you know, but they won’t work if she doesn’t want to go home with you.

The truth is you only need one thing to dramatically increase your chances of success. It’s called:

TRUST

The only way a woman will want to be alone with you is if she trusts you. If you can prove you’re a normal guy and not some wacko, then she’ll feel comfortable enough to go home with you.

So from the moment you meet a woman, you have to act like a trustworthy person. Don’t say or do anything too weird. Simply do things which will make her feek safe within your presence.

Now once you have her trust you have to make your request about going back to your house seem like a casual comment. In other words, don’t seem too nervous or overeager.

Women can easily detect when a guy is high strung about getting them to his house. So you can’t act too excited. In fact, make your request seem completely natural,

One technique which works incredibly well is to talk about something you have back at your house. All you have to do is mention it during your conversation. (Just make sure it’s something which she would find interesting) For instance you could talk mention one of the following:

* A stupid pet trick

* A cool home video

* An art piece

* An interesting music

The key is to ensure you’ve built up enough excitement and expectation about this particular item. Now to make this work, you have to make sure you’re within close proximity of your house.

One trick is to get a ride home from her. Then when you’ve reached your house, you can say something like:

“Hey I’ve got that _____ I was talking about. Come inside and check it out. But I’ll have to kick you out afterwards”

When you say a statement like this, you’re reducing the pressure of the request because you’re not appearing to be too aggressive. In addition, you’re creating a safe atmosphere, because you’re not acting like a sex fiend. Basically you’re acting like a confident guy who wants to show her something.

Then once she’s inside, you can allow nature to take its course!

Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson’s Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/meet-women122.html

As you probably know by now, the dating game can be quite brutal.

While you might want to be a nice and honest guy, there are many times when being straightforward will hurt you chances of being successful at dating. This is especially true when it comes to attracting women.

Now we all want to impress women, but I’m going to let you in on a little secret…

Women are ALWAYS judging men!

When you first meet a woman, she’ll quickly base her decision on what you say and how you handle her tests. If you fail one these tests, you’ll have little chance of attracting her or setting up a date.

That’s why knowing how to pass a women’s tests is mandatory.

In the next few minutes, you’ll learn the real secrets to passing women’s tests. By being able to identify and counteract their tests you won’t be trapped into a situation where a woman can control and manipulate you.

Here we go…

Understand the woman

The first step to passing a woman’s test is to understand what type of woman you’re dealing with.

By now, you probably know that all women are different. Some will be easy going and honest. And others will have a darker nature and will love to play games with you.

So if you’re faced with a woman who is testing you, try to quickly find out if this is a major part of her personality. If you discover she is the type of women who makes outlandish requests or acts like a drama queen, then you know you’re probably dealing with a woman who LOVES to test guys.

My advice is to steer clear of these type of women.

Anybody with this type of personality, who is always testing guys, usually has emotional baggage. If you’re with a woman like this, she’ll probably make your life miserable.

Challenge her tests

Now if you’re dealing with a woman who likes test guys once in awhile, then you should take a different approach. My advice is to call her out every time you feel you’re being tested.

In other words, if she makes a request or says something you disagree with, don’t be afraid to point out what she’s doing and mess with her.

Now I hate to say this, but women often make requests from guys to see if they’re prone to being manipulated.

For instance, you might encounter a woman who’ll boldly say to you “buy me a drink”. If you want to pass this test, you simply ignore this request or tell her to buy you a drink because you’re an important person to be around.

Now I want to mention that I’m not against doing nice things for women. But you should do them on YOUR terms, not at the whim of some woman’s tests.

Qualify her

A great technique for handling a woman is to change around the situation and start testing her. Basically with this technique, you’re qualifying a woman to see if she meets YOUR expectations.

What you want to do, is establish your standards in a conversation and tell her what you’re not willing (or willing) to put up with. Then steer the conversation towards getting the woman to qualify herself.

I like this technique because it’s great for reversing roles and putting you in the power position. If you force her to qualify herself, she’ll have little time to give you tests.

Joke around

The final technique for handling women’s tests is to never be serious or give a direct answer. Generally women like to test guys as way to judge their personality or social status. In fact some will even be superficial enough to ask you about your car or job.

Your goal is to use answers that will deflect her questions. The way to do this is to never give her a straight answer. That way, she’ll know she’s dealing with a guy who cannot be tested.

Women’s tests are a way for them to make snap decisions about who you are. By using the techniques I’ve described, you’ll be able to pass or ignore your tests. Once this happens, you’ll establish yourself as a higher status guy who women want to be around.

Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson’s Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/meet-women120.html

One question I get all from my readers goes something like this…

“I like (or have just met) a woman who is great, but has a boyfriend. What can I do to get rid of the boyfriend and make her like me?

Well these guys are pretty frustrated because many great women are already taken.

Maybe you’ve faced the same situation.

If so, read closely because I’m about to reveal my 6 step system for making a woman forget her boyfriend and want to be with you.

But before we move on, let me get one thing straight…

I don’t think messing with an established relationship is a good idea. When you do this, you’re creating a situation where somebody will get hurt.

So even if you’ve found a great girl, trying keeping her as a friend and dating only single women. Ultimately this will make you happier.

Now if you REALLY like a girl and desperately want to be with her, then try this system:

Step 1- Understand your situation

Before you try to neutralize the boyfriend, you must first explore your own relationship with this girl. If you find out you’re in the “friends zone”, then her boyfriend won’t be the obstacle.

In other words, she will not want to date you even if she doesn’t have a boyfriend.

So even if she ditches the boyfriend, she’ll end up dating other guys.

When you’re in “friends zone”, you must first take steps towards making yourself a sexual threat to her. Don’t act like her friend, act like a potential dating partner.

Step 2- Ignore the boyfriend

My first advice about the boyfriend is to ignore him. Don’t bring him up or talk about him. If she only mentions the boyfriend once, then she’s probably not that interested in him.

Don’t let the boyfriend be an obstacle.

Instead continue to work on your attraction and flirting techniques.

Step 3- Never mock her boyfriend

Now if she mentions her boyfriend multiple times, you have to switch tactics.

To make her interested, you have to change her mindset and convince her that you represent everything she’s missing in her life.

But the one thing you should do is never mock or ridicule her boyfriend. By doing this you’ll only make her defend him- which is the last thing you want.

My advice is to be different. If she mentions him, say nice things and talk about how wonderful he sounds.

Which brings us to the next step…

Step 4- Talk about how great he is

Once a woman starts discussing her boyfriend, ask questions about him. Then as the conversation evolves, exaggerate his positive qualities to incredible levels. In fact, talk about him like he is a God.

A great technique I recently discovered is to say something like this to a woman…

“You guys sound SO cute together! I could totally see you two together in 10 years, married with 5 kids and a nice little house in the suburbs”.

When you use this technique, you’re latching on to her fear of losing her independence and sense of adventure. As a result, she’ll start to wonder if she’s never going to have fun again.

Step 5- Tell her you would make a terrible boyfriend

Once you’re on the topic of her boyfriend, tell her how you would be a horrendous boyfriend. Compare yourself with the wonderful aspects of her boyfriend and tell her why you’re different.

With this tactic you want to describe yourself as an adventurous guy who lives a fun life and could never settle down with one woman. You want to make her think you’re a fun person who is always having great times.

Step 6- Talk about your adventures

Once you’ve established yourself as a guy who would be a bad boyfriend, you have to make another transition.

You should tell her that while you’re not boyfriend material, you would at least be a provider of fun times and excitement. Basically you’re setting yourself up as a guy who would make a lousy boyfriend, but will be interesting to be around.

By combining this six step system with fundamental attraction advice, you’ll be perceived as a guy who can provide women with excitement. Since many of them are in relationships out of convenience, she’ll change her mindset and think of you in a sexual manner.

And once a woman sees you in this light, she’ll be attracted towards you and your lifestyle. Then you can slip in there and steal her away from her boyfriend.

Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson’s Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/meet-women116.html

‘Till death do us part’ has probably failed to stand the test of time but interestingly the institution of marriage hasn’t.

People still believe in tying the knot. However, with the variety of lifestyle choices available and the growing acceptance of individual choices by the society at large, this symptom of falling out of love is being experienced by a lot of people. Or probably a better way to put it would be to say that more people are voicing their opinions on the issue now than ever before.

Actually, in order to understand the idea of falling out of love I tried to explore what this much talked about idea of falling in love is all about. And not surprisingly I found a plethora of definitions.

Based on the different definitions I can vouch for the fact that a vast majority of the human race experience this emotion. Some define it as a wild beating of the heart at the sight of the other while others say that it is a feeling of comfort that one feels in the company of the other. But, no matter how they choose to define it this whole business of falling in love is a very desirable and ecstatic affair. So, what is it that after being a part of such a desirable experience that many people are beginning to feel that wow factor is kind of wearing out and they are beginning to feel as if they have or are falling out of love.

According to Ashok Rajagopal, an illustrator of repute, the main mistake that most of us make is that we do not realize that as a relationship ages and matures the nature of love which forms the basis of the relationship also changes its hues. Therefore, courtship love is very different from marital love.

For instance, not too many people care to present a picture perfect image of themselves to their spouses after a few years of marriage. But, that does not mean they do not care about the spouse anymore. What actually happens is that now friendship between the couple gives birth to a comfort zone where it becomes unnecessary to make an extra effort to impress the other. But, some people find it difficult to accept this and consider it to be a sign of disinterest. I think it is these people who feel that they are falling out of love.

Not everybody has such a simple and straightforward explanation of the issue. Bidisha, a software professional says, I feel that we lead very stressful lives despite the handsome kitty that we bring home. This to my mind is because of the extremely limited time that we get to spend with each other as a couple. Most of the time we communicate either because we have to or to argue. Before, atleast there was a making up phase. Of late that has become non-existent.

This sometimes makes me feel that forget falling out of love’ there is very little personal reason for us being together as a couple. In fact, I sometimes feel we are together more because of two reasons. One- that is what we are expected to do. Secondly because, we are so used to each other.

Snigdha Gohain a practicing family counselor says, yes, it is true that more and more young people are falling prey to the feeling of falling out of love. But, I think it has a lot to do with the fact that the younger generation or the internet generation as I prefer to call them do not realize that relationships grow and develop over a period of time and people in a relationship need to work at it.

Today people are more impatient. They are not willing to give each other time. Sometimes what seems to be unbearable seems quite reasonable when one tries to look at it from the doer’s perspective. So, that’s the number one thing to realize. Some couples pass the buck on to not having enough time to spend with each other. To these people my advice would be it is not the amount of time you spend with each other that is important but the way you spend it. Sometimes, it is a good idea to make an effort to bring back a little of the magic that you feel is lost. And this I must share with you.

A lot of times couples wait for the other person to make the first move. Now this is a foolish thing to do. Firstly because a lot of precious time is lost during this tome. Secondly, though this may sound a little philosophical, it is a fact, I or the ego has no place in a relationship.

So, if we were to conclude that falling in love is a state of mind in which energy levels are high and interest is optimum then falling out of love is probably the opposite.

Therefore, since you are the boss in the former you continue to be the same in the latter. What is important is to realize that you are one of those extremely lucky and blessed people who have found love. Like all precious commodities love needs to be handled with care and respect. And chances are you’ll never have to deal with falling out of love.

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As much as women are the smarter sex, this only holds true when they are thinking straight and not under pressure. When they are young, hot, and have lots of time, they play their cards differently. As they get older and the biological clock starts getting louder, their judgment suffers.

Like anyone, once you start wanting something too badly, you make poor decisions. You tend to rush things and become more impatient, letting the other person sense your hunger for whatever it is you seek. You become desperate.

That will put you at a disadvantage and handicap your ability to judge. Always having an option, and not needing it badly, is the key.

Relationships are no different. As women get older, they tend to turn up the screws of a relationship faster. They see their options dwindling, as they are not yet where they want to be in life, which is on “the program”. The woman starts to pressure the man she sees as the one who will get her on “the program”. “The Program” being married, secure, couple of kids to justify not having to work, legally protected in case the relationship ends, benefit of a higher earner to move her up in live etc.

That pressure quite often leads to problems in the relationship, as most guys don’t like being pressured into taking the next step before they are ready themselves.

Almost anywhere you go, when you meet new people, the first question out of any single women’s mouth is, “Hi, how are you? So what do you do?” Now, I know that to some degree they may be trying to start up a conversation, but what that really means most of the time is, “I don’t have time to waste, so I need to know if you’re a good earner before I waste any time talking to you.”

It’s like women have become so desperate that they need to know right away what the deal is with you. It would be like the guy asking her right away, “Hi, how are you? So do you swallow?”

When a woman asks that question, any reasonably smart guy knows exactly where she’s coming from, and what her intentions are going to be. That is a huge turnoff. It’s pressure before anything even begins between the two of you. As a woman, how would you look at a guy if he let you know right away that all he wanted was some action? You’ve done the same thing to him, you just don’t realize it.

Women create their own worst fears by being overly impatient about where something is going. Instead of going with the flow and allowing things to develop at their own normal pace, they try to accelerate them. That attempted acceleration usually ruins whatever it is they had going up until then. Women become the authors of their own misfortune.

Women who are desperate will not get what they want. If you instantly let the guy know that what you really need is a meal ticket, chances are he will not respond the way you want him to. Getting right to the nitty-gritty when you meet him, or trying to pressure him to commit prematurely, will let him know that. And faking it won’t work, either. You can’t just pretend to not want it. You must genuinely not need it. Then it will happen all day long.

As women get close to thirty, they really need to relax and not try to force something to happen. Don’t force meeting someone, and don’t force an existing relationship forward. Forcing a meeting usually doesn’t do anything more than getting the guy you met laid a few times. Forcing an existing relationship to the next level can cost you the guy who would have eventually committed and propelled you onto “the program”

If he is really worthwhile, he will not be pressured into a commitment. If he isn’t worth it, the pressure will work. That’s why it’s a no-win situation for a female to give her man the ultimatum before he’s ready. If you win, you lose, and if you lose, you lose.

Allow things to develop. Yes, some guys will take a lot more patience than others. Yes, most guys won’t move as quickly as you want them to. However, be patient and follow your heart and mind, and don’t let the biological clock affect your decisions and make you do something stupid. You will know if he just needs more time. You will know if he will ultimately commit. And you will know that without asking him and letting him know that’s what you’re waiting for.

Men are totally different creatures in how they screw up with women. Most of their screw-ups happen as a result of not having enough balls to deal with women straight up. They tend to lie to women in an attempt to keep them happy. As much as women hate being lied to, they do like the idea that they are that significant for him to think he has to lie to her.

Let’s say you stopped at the pub on the way home for a few drinks with the boys. You get home, and she’s mad because you’re half an hour late. The biggest mistake most guys make is to immediately try to lie to justify what they did.

They make excuses for being late and lie about where they were. What guys don’t know is the minute you do that, you’ve just raised her authority in your life. You’ve elevated her into being your boss. You must answer to her.

Although women don’t like the lies, they love the idea that you’re answering to her. She’s been elevated to a position of authority. Just as you will lie to your boss at work because of his authority, you now have done the same thing with your spouse. She’s now your boss, and you will be hiding and lying and answering to her forever.

What you should have done when you got home late from the pub, instead of cowardly excusing and trying to justify it, is to say, “Sorry I’m late, but I’ve had a long day. The boys were stopping off for a couple of drinks, and I did the same. I wanted to.” Plain and simple.

You’ve now taken her authority away from her. You’ve simply admitted why you were late without fear of repercussions by her. She’s not your boss. You’re not concerned about her authority over you. That’s the message you want to send. You’ll be surprised once you employ this approach how few arguments and lies you will have to deal with in the future.

Do you remember how schoolyard bullies were? They would not stop pushing you until you stood up to them. Usually the longer you waited to stand up to them, the harder it became to do so, because by then the bully knew you were afraid of them.

Believe it or not, women are no different. They’re like dogs that can sense fear. When you’re afraid of them, they know it and take full advantage of it. You’re their slave.

That’s why, when you come home and start lying to her, she knows it’s because, to some degree, you’re afraid of her reaction if you tell her the truth. She’s not only been elevated to being the boss, she’s the schoolyard bully pushing you around and watching you hide from her and the truth.

Andey Randead is the author of “The Great Female Con”, a highly controvertial account of many current relationship issues. His book can be previewed at http://www.thegreatfemalecon.com