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‘Till death do us part’ has probably failed to stand the test of time but interestingly the institution of marriage hasn’t.

People still believe in tying the knot. However, with the variety of lifestyle choices available and the growing acceptance of individual choices by the society at large, this symptom of falling out of love is being experienced by a lot of people. Or probably a better way to put it would be to say that more people are voicing their opinions on the issue now than ever before.

Actually, in order to understand the idea of falling out of love I tried to explore what this much talked about idea of falling in love is all about. And not surprisingly I found a plethora of definitions.

Based on the different definitions I can vouch for the fact that a vast majority of the human race experience this emotion. Some define it as a wild beating of the heart at the sight of the other while others say that it is a feeling of comfort that one feels in the company of the other. But, no matter how they choose to define it this whole business of falling in love is a very desirable and ecstatic affair. So, what is it that after being a part of such a desirable experience that many people are beginning to feel that wow factor is kind of wearing out and they are beginning to feel as if they have or are falling out of love.

According to Ashok Rajagopal, an illustrator of repute, the main mistake that most of us make is that we do not realize that as a relationship ages and matures the nature of love which forms the basis of the relationship also changes its hues. Therefore, courtship love is very different from marital love.

For instance, not too many people care to present a picture perfect image of themselves to their spouses after a few years of marriage. But, that does not mean they do not care about the spouse anymore. What actually happens is that now friendship between the couple gives birth to a comfort zone where it becomes unnecessary to make an extra effort to impress the other. But, some people find it difficult to accept this and consider it to be a sign of disinterest. I think it is these people who feel that they are falling out of love.

Not everybody has such a simple and straightforward explanation of the issue. Bidisha, a software professional says, I feel that we lead very stressful lives despite the handsome kitty that we bring home. This to my mind is because of the extremely limited time that we get to spend with each other as a couple. Most of the time we communicate either because we have to or to argue. Before, atleast there was a making up phase. Of late that has become non-existent.

This sometimes makes me feel that forget falling out of love’ there is very little personal reason for us being together as a couple. In fact, I sometimes feel we are together more because of two reasons. One- that is what we are expected to do. Secondly because, we are so used to each other.

Snigdha Gohain a practicing family counselor says, yes, it is true that more and more young people are falling prey to the feeling of falling out of love. But, I think it has a lot to do with the fact that the younger generation or the internet generation as I prefer to call them do not realize that relationships grow and develop over a period of time and people in a relationship need to work at it.

Today people are more impatient. They are not willing to give each other time. Sometimes what seems to be unbearable seems quite reasonable when one tries to look at it from the doer’s perspective. So, that’s the number one thing to realize. Some couples pass the buck on to not having enough time to spend with each other. To these people my advice would be it is not the amount of time you spend with each other that is important but the way you spend it. Sometimes, it is a good idea to make an effort to bring back a little of the magic that you feel is lost. And this I must share with you.

A lot of times couples wait for the other person to make the first move. Now this is a foolish thing to do. Firstly because a lot of precious time is lost during this tome. Secondly, though this may sound a little philosophical, it is a fact, I or the ego has no place in a relationship.

So, if we were to conclude that falling in love is a state of mind in which energy levels are high and interest is optimum then falling out of love is probably the opposite.

Therefore, since you are the boss in the former you continue to be the same in the latter. What is important is to realize that you are one of those extremely lucky and blessed people who have found love. Like all precious commodities love needs to be handled with care and respect. And chances are you’ll never have to deal with falling out of love.

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As much as women are the smarter sex, this only holds true when they are thinking straight and not under pressure. When they are young, hot, and have lots of time, they play their cards differently. As they get older and the biological clock starts getting louder, their judgment suffers.

Like anyone, once you start wanting something too badly, you make poor decisions. You tend to rush things and become more impatient, letting the other person sense your hunger for whatever it is you seek. You become desperate.

That will put you at a disadvantage and handicap your ability to judge. Always having an option, and not needing it badly, is the key.

Relationships are no different. As women get older, they tend to turn up the screws of a relationship faster. They see their options dwindling, as they are not yet where they want to be in life, which is on “the program”. The woman starts to pressure the man she sees as the one who will get her on “the program”. “The Program” being married, secure, couple of kids to justify not having to work, legally protected in case the relationship ends, benefit of a higher earner to move her up in live etc.

That pressure quite often leads to problems in the relationship, as most guys don’t like being pressured into taking the next step before they are ready themselves.

Almost anywhere you go, when you meet new people, the first question out of any single women’s mouth is, “Hi, how are you? So what do you do?” Now, I know that to some degree they may be trying to start up a conversation, but what that really means most of the time is, “I don’t have time to waste, so I need to know if you’re a good earner before I waste any time talking to you.”

It’s like women have become so desperate that they need to know right away what the deal is with you. It would be like the guy asking her right away, “Hi, how are you? So do you swallow?”

When a woman asks that question, any reasonably smart guy knows exactly where she’s coming from, and what her intentions are going to be. That is a huge turnoff. It’s pressure before anything even begins between the two of you. As a woman, how would you look at a guy if he let you know right away that all he wanted was some action? You’ve done the same thing to him, you just don’t realize it.

Women create their own worst fears by being overly impatient about where something is going. Instead of going with the flow and allowing things to develop at their own normal pace, they try to accelerate them. That attempted acceleration usually ruins whatever it is they had going up until then. Women become the authors of their own misfortune.

Women who are desperate will not get what they want. If you instantly let the guy know that what you really need is a meal ticket, chances are he will not respond the way you want him to. Getting right to the nitty-gritty when you meet him, or trying to pressure him to commit prematurely, will let him know that. And faking it won’t work, either. You can’t just pretend to not want it. You must genuinely not need it. Then it will happen all day long.

As women get close to thirty, they really need to relax and not try to force something to happen. Don’t force meeting someone, and don’t force an existing relationship forward. Forcing a meeting usually doesn’t do anything more than getting the guy you met laid a few times. Forcing an existing relationship to the next level can cost you the guy who would have eventually committed and propelled you onto “the program”

If he is really worthwhile, he will not be pressured into a commitment. If he isn’t worth it, the pressure will work. That’s why it’s a no-win situation for a female to give her man the ultimatum before he’s ready. If you win, you lose, and if you lose, you lose.

Allow things to develop. Yes, some guys will take a lot more patience than others. Yes, most guys won’t move as quickly as you want them to. However, be patient and follow your heart and mind, and don’t let the biological clock affect your decisions and make you do something stupid. You will know if he just needs more time. You will know if he will ultimately commit. And you will know that without asking him and letting him know that’s what you’re waiting for.

Men are totally different creatures in how they screw up with women. Most of their screw-ups happen as a result of not having enough balls to deal with women straight up. They tend to lie to women in an attempt to keep them happy. As much as women hate being lied to, they do like the idea that they are that significant for him to think he has to lie to her.

Let’s say you stopped at the pub on the way home for a few drinks with the boys. You get home, and she’s mad because you’re half an hour late. The biggest mistake most guys make is to immediately try to lie to justify what they did.

They make excuses for being late and lie about where they were. What guys don’t know is the minute you do that, you’ve just raised her authority in your life. You’ve elevated her into being your boss. You must answer to her.

Although women don’t like the lies, they love the idea that you’re answering to her. She’s been elevated to a position of authority. Just as you will lie to your boss at work because of his authority, you now have done the same thing with your spouse. She’s now your boss, and you will be hiding and lying and answering to her forever.

What you should have done when you got home late from the pub, instead of cowardly excusing and trying to justify it, is to say, “Sorry I’m late, but I’ve had a long day. The boys were stopping off for a couple of drinks, and I did the same. I wanted to.” Plain and simple.

You’ve now taken her authority away from her. You’ve simply admitted why you were late without fear of repercussions by her. She’s not your boss. You’re not concerned about her authority over you. That’s the message you want to send. You’ll be surprised once you employ this approach how few arguments and lies you will have to deal with in the future.

Do you remember how schoolyard bullies were? They would not stop pushing you until you stood up to them. Usually the longer you waited to stand up to them, the harder it became to do so, because by then the bully knew you were afraid of them.

Believe it or not, women are no different. They’re like dogs that can sense fear. When you’re afraid of them, they know it and take full advantage of it. You’re their slave.

That’s why, when you come home and start lying to her, she knows it’s because, to some degree, you’re afraid of her reaction if you tell her the truth. She’s not only been elevated to being the boss, she’s the schoolyard bully pushing you around and watching you hide from her and the truth.

Andey Randead is the author of “The Great Female Con”, a highly controvertial account of many current relationship issues. His book can be previewed at http://www.thegreatfemalecon.com

Your first date with a woman is one of the most important steps towards build attraction.

Without mutual attraction and interest, you’ll have little chance of going on a future date or building a relationship.

That’s why it’s vital that you take her to right place on your first date.

Now the one mistake guys make is to appear too overeager by brining women to fancy restaurant or buying her expensive gifts.

By doing this, you’re only setting an uncomfortable situation. In addition it does nothing to build attraction.

So to have a great first date where you can build attraction, you should think of places which can provide memorable and fun time. In short you want to go to place where you can establish an emotional and physical connection. Then if you enjoy your date, then you plan a second date which is more traditional- like taking her to a restaurant.

If you’re stuck with where to go, then you can use the three first date ideas I’ve included below:

Perfect First Date Idea #1- Meet for drinks or coffee

Although meeting her for drinks or coffee is a typical idea used by many guys, it still provides an effective environment for getting to know a woman.

When you meet at a place like this, you’ll be able to talk n a casual manner without the feeling of pressure like you would at restaurant.

In addition at a bar or coffee shop, you’ll be in close proximity to one another which alls you to establish physical contact. So you’ll be able to flirt and do things to build attraction.

Perfect First Date Idea #2- Play games

Another great place for a first date is a place where you can enjoy playful games like a video arcade, pool hall, miniature golf, or the boardwalk.

What’s great about this idea is you’re easing the tension which often happens on the first date. You can enjoy yourself while playfully competing with this woman.

Perfect First Date Idea #3- Get physical

The final first date is to do something which involves engaging in a physical activity. This could be hiking, ice skating or rollerblading.

This is an incredible way to have fun while figuring out if she has an adventurous attitude.

These three first date ideas can be an excellent way to build attraction and rapport. They all provide a fun while avoiding the pressures of the dates which seem more like job interview.

All you have to do is keep things low key and fun. Then you use the fun experience to build towards a second date and quite possibly a long term relationship.

Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson’s Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/meet-women117.html

You ever notice something?

There are certain guys who attract and seduce women just with their attitude!

So what do they do to draw women to them like a magnet?

Well their attitude projects a high level of confidence in all interactions. Without even opening their mouths, they let women know they’re a force to be reckoned with.

Now if you want to be a master at attracting and seducing women, you have to learn how to develop this attitude. In the next few paragraphs, I’ll reveal 4 ways you can develop a seductive attitude.

1- Dress confidently

The way you dress shows a confident and seductive personality.

You can cultivate a seductive attitude simply by making slight changes to your wardrobe. In fact what you wear can tell a lot about you. So if you want to appear confident, you have to dress confidently.

This means if you want to create a seductive personality, you have to ditch all the clothing items which would make you seem dorky or wussy. Instead wear things which are fashionable in today’s society. While you don’t have to redesign your entire wardrobe, you should make some subtle changes which make you stand out in a positive way.

2- Change your body language

Your body language is an important element to creating a seductive attitude.

When you first meet women, your body language will be how you’re initially judged. So you have to make sure you’re projecting a seductive attitude.

My advice is to study guys who have strong, alpha male personalities. Note how they stand and how they interact with women. After studying many different guys like this you’ll notice a commonality between them.

Once you discover what makes their body language unique, you’ll imitate their mannerisms and create a seductive attitude.

3- Have a confident smile and eye contact

The way you make eye contact and smile at women gives them a glimpse into your attitude. When you approach a woman, you should do so with an attitude which projects an incredible level of confidence. So it’s important to ditch the wussy approaches and walk up to women like you’re the most important person in the room.

If you’re uncomfortable with approaching women, then I suggest you practice engaging different people in conversation. The more you do this, the more it’ll seem natural to start talking to women.

4- Create a seductive conversation

In order to seduce women with your attitude your conversations should interesting and funny. Want to do is create three or four great stories which you can introduce into a conversation. They should provide humor while making you seem like an intriguing person. Then try working them into every conversation you have with women.

In addition to telling women interesting stories, you should ask provocative questions about them. Then when you find a common thing, work it towards building rapport and chemistry.

Having a seductive attitude is an important step towards attracting women. If you can make a few changes within your life, you’ll become the kind of man which all women want.

Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson’s Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/meet-women118.html

Do you know the ONE thing which is most attractive to women?

You’re completely wrong if you answered looks, youth or money, then!

The truth is women are always attracted to guys with unique and interesting personalities. In order to be successful with women, you have to know the right kind of characteristics to display to women.

In the next few minutes, you’ll learn the most important personality traits to display that will draw women to you. Let’s get started…

Personality Trait #1- Confidence

Whenever you’re talking to women, you have to show absolute confidence in yourself. No matter what happens or comes up, you should act like it doesn’t faze you. A confident guy can roll with the punches and handle himself in all situations.

Personality Trait #2- Mysterious

When you first meet women, you want to project a mysterious personality. What you want to do is meet women, and not be specific about your life. Instead of taking the time to talk about your background, learn to tell interesting stories about what you’ve done or things that have happened to you.

In other words, let your personality shine through. Not your background or social status.

Personality Trait #3- Desirable

I’m going to be honest here…

Women like guys who are pursued by other women. To trigger this reaction, you should flirt and meet with multiple women, instead of trying to attract a single one.

So next time you’re in public, try meeting and flirting with different women. Eventually you’ll find that there will be a few women who are competing for your attention.

Personality Trait #4- Center of attention

When you display this trait, you’ll become the guy who captivates the interest of every person you meet. In order to display this trait, you have to establish yourself as an authority with interesting things to say.

When you become the focal point of a room, you’ll be able to easily draw beautiful women to you.

Personality Trait #5- Fun to be around

An attractive guy is somebody who can bring fun and excitement to a conversation. If you can make women enjoy themselves when they’re around you, then it’ll be easy to attract them.

So instead of talking about serious stuff like work, school or your family, try to behave in a flirtatious manner and talk about fun things.

Personality Trait #6- Strength

Having a strong personality is one of the best ways attract women.

You can show this personality by always looking a woman in the eye and maintaining length eye contact. In addition, you should be a person who sets high standards and lives by them.

Personality Trait #7- Be challenging

One mistake other guys make is to be too aggressive with women.

Instead of doing this, you should try make her work for your attraction. For instance, you should do a few things leaves her wondering if you like her. The more she has to work for your affections, the more she’ll be into you.

In order to attract women, you must have a unique personality.

By cultivating the traits that I’ve described in this article, you’ll become the type of guy who can stand out from the crowd. All you have to do is practice demonstrating these traits, and you’ll dramatically increase your success with women.

Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson’s Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/meet-women128.html