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“How do I initiate a conversation with a woman?”

This is a question I receive all the time from my loyal readers. What happens is these men spot an interesting woman, but they have no idea how to walk up to her and start talking.

Unfortunately many of them make the mistake of using some corny pick up line they heard from their friends.

Now let me tell you a little secret…

Pick up lines NEVER work

When you use a pick up line, you’re telegraphing your interest and showing a lack of originality. Instead of attracting women, your pick up line is instantly repelling them.

So how do you initiate a conversation without using a pick up line?

It’s simple…

All you have to do is use an Opener!

What is an opener?

Basically an opener is a type of conversation starter which can instantly attract the interest of women. It’s used to begin a conversation, get their attention and then transition into getting to know them better.

It differs from a pick up line because it involves getting their opinion and getting them to talk. An opener differs because it doesn’t make you look cheesy or lower status.

Openers work for many different reasons. Primarily an opener works because:

1)Women love to give their opinions

2)You can use their answers to latch onto a conversation topic

3)You’re not telegraphing your intention

4)You’ll appear to be funny while being interesting at the same time.

The key to creating a good opener is it should be an open-ended question which involves all the people in the group you’re approaching. What you’re trying to do is walk up to a group, ask their opinion and get them talking.

So the opener should NEVER be question which can be answered in a quick yes or no. Instead it should get them talking and make them interested in what you have to say.

Now here are few rules you can use to craft a good opener:

First you have to give them a time constraint. If a group thinks you’re going to stay for a few minutes, they’ll be more likely to open up and be friendly. Then once you’ve attracted their attention, they’ll forget about your time constraint.

Next your opener should be interesting and funny. In order to be fun, try to keep your conversation starter light hearted. You should fabricate a opener from your life or use something which provides and excellent topic of conversation.

Finally you have to give them a reason why you’re asking their opinion. In other words, you can’t give the appearance that you’re randomly walking around the room asking people questions. The best technique is to let them know that you were having a conversation with your buddy and you needed a woman’s opinion.

What you want to do is sit down and craft 3-4 different openers which can be used in different environments. Just think of funny or interesting things within your life and then craft an opener around it.

If you’re stuck, you can use this opener which many guys have used to great success.

It’s called the “G- String Opener”:

You Say:

“Hey guys, I’m on my way out, but I wanted to get a quick opinion from you all. I was just talking to my buddy and we were discussing a mutual friend. This guy totally messed up with his girlfriend and cheated.

Unfortunately his girlfriend found this other girl’s G-String underneath his bed. To cover for himself, my friend told his girlfriend that he has a fetish for wearing women’s underwear. What’s funny is his girlfriend loves this idea and now makes him wear her underwear.

So I was wondering what you guys think: Do you think he should continue to cover for himself or should he come clean with his girlfriend?”

This opener is effective because it’s interesting and funny at the same time. Once you use this opener and get their opinion, you can transition into other topics and find out more about the group.

Now I encourage you to sit down and create your own opener. Try to tailor it to your personality and make it funny.

Just remember that openers are a great way to initiate a conversation and they will ALWAYS beat out a corny pick up line.

Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson’s Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/meet-women129.html

There is a fairly new dating trend that seems to be growing by leaps and bounds. It is called speed dating. Just what is speed dating? How does it work?

Before we define it, and so as to have a better understanding, let’s first try and trace its origins.

The now very popular dating method is said to have actually started years ago in Jewish communities in the Middle East. In the USA, credit goes to Rabbi Yaacov Deyo. The Rabbi intended this dating method as way for Jewish people to meet in areas where they were outnumbered by non-Jews.

Speed dating can be defined as an organized matchmaking event whose purpose is for people to meet other people (potential spouses) in large numbers. This is the beauty of it: everyone is actively seeking a mate.

Couples rotate from station to station every few minutes (about eight minutes) and meet a new potential mate at each station. Each dater takes turns asking the other person at their station questions until the clock expires and then they move onto the next station. Each dater takes notes on each date so they can sort of who they do or do not want to see again at the end of the session.

The time limit serves a dual purpose. It prevents getting too engrossed in a conversation with one particular person and also prevents getting stuck with someone you don’t like.

No phone numbers are exchanged directly. Nor is one allowed to ask another out. This is in order to avoid a face to face rejection. An atmosphere of fun and enjoyment is encouraged. Arguing is prohibited. This is one unique feature about this dating system.

At the end of the event, each participant submits a list of people they would like their contacts given to. The organizer then looks for matches. If two people want to share their contact information, there is a match. Matching is done after the event, to avoid facing rejection.

Those in favor of speed dating claim it is a much better, cheaper and safer method of meeting people than going into a bar. They also point out that it is much more efficient than other dating services, such as online dating, since you meet each person face-to-face and can gather information on them quickly. Also, physical attraction – or chemistry – is much easier to judge in person than it is simply looking at pictures online.

Most speed dating services charge between $25 and $60 per person. The fee normally includes a couple of free drinks or a meal or snacks. Sessions typically have between 50 and 150 participants, half male and half female. Lesbian and gay events do exist also.

Critics of speed dating claim that you are forced to spend your time on “dates” with people you are not attracted to and have no interest in, wasting both your time and money. Of course it’s only a few minutes and if you end up meeting that special at an event, it is well worth it.

Hope this answers the question of what is speed dating, and how it works. If you do decide to give it a try just be sure to follow one simple rule. No matter what happens, HAVE FUN!

David Kamau offers free dating tips, articles and online dating service reviews at http://e-datecentral.com. Now check out top rated services for Speed Dating at: http://e-datecentral.com/personals/speed_dating.htm

Catching a man’s attention is much easier than most women think. Yet, why then do so many women who want to be in a satisfying, loving relationship have trouble finding even a casual date? It is true that women outnumber men, especially in terms of those looking for something serious, so the women who are finding a man are the ones who are taking proper initiative.

I am in complete agreement that after a long day at the office, the idea of curling up on the couch with take-out and a movie is much more appealing than the idea of dressing up and heading out for a night on the town. Unfortunately for you, however, you are not going to meet men in your living room! I am not recommending that you go to all the clubs and other noisy hotspots in your city to meet men. I hardly find that type of environment to be ideal for meaningful conversation, but would visiting a bookstore or listening to music at a jazz club be a hardship? Any place where you feel comfortable just hanging out is a good place to start because you are more likely to “just be yourself” as we are encouraged over and over. Also, it is important to head someplace where you know you will be able to hear yourself think, and more importantly, hear your potential dates attempts to introduce himself.

Now that you are up, dressed and out of the house, there is another mistake women often make. What is that? It is “getting out there” without getting ready first! At the very least I recommend a glance in the direction of a mirror to catch a stray piece of spinach in the teeth or wayward bangs. Preferable is a full-length mirror so that you can make a proper assessment. What is the use of perfecting your makeup if your outfit is sloppy? While “looks are not everything,” your appearance does have an effect on how others view you – particularly men. Taking care of yourself shows that you also know how to care about someone else.

Further, I beg you, please do not be one of those women who decides to make a last-minute grocery shopping trip on her way home from the gym! Gym apparel was named such for a reason – nature did not intend for it to be seen outside of a room with exercise equipment! If take the time to put even a little effort into your appearance you will feel more confident, which will in turn effect the way you carry yourself, which will result in your appearing more attractive to others. No matter where we are or what we are doing, we are sending out signals to those around us. Sometimes these are more powerful than we realize and as a result we can be telling men to “back off” without realizing it! Make an honest examination of your own and avoid crossed arms, which are a definite “leave me alone” signal.

Do not go overboard in the cosmetics department, but a dab of lip gloss and black mascara can go a long way. Even if you are a Granola Girl, keep this advice in mind: the natural look is beautiful but be careful with the naked look on your face, you want to avoid looking tired or washed out when trying to catch a man’s attention. Play up your assets, downplay your flaws — there are plenty of materials to read, how-to videos to watch, and professionals to consult on the matter of personal beauty. Do not be too shy to ask for some help or an honest opinion on how you are doing in the fashion department.

Finally, I cannot stress enough the importance of eye contact! If your eyes are locked on the asphalt, averting the gaze of all who pass, how will you notice the men who are undoubtedly noticing you? Eyes are said to be the “window to the soul,” so let him see how beautiful you are inside!

Men need feedback to be sure that you are approachable. If you aren’t sending the right signals, but the man is picking them up from another woman who is definitely interested, who do you think he will choose? Hmm… Let’s think about this: you — where there exists the possibility of rejection or her — where there exists a definite yes to his java invitation? Let him know he has a chance: attracting men is not rocket science, it is just common sense.

Caterina Christakos is an experienced dating coach and author. For more in-depth strategies on how to attract a man, go to:

http://www.seductiondiva.com

Dating can be tough on many guys!

This is especially true when it comes to attracting women. The problem is guys tend to make many mistakes that they’re not even aware of.

For instance, I was recently at a bar where I noticed a guy talking to an attractive woman. What’s interesting was this guy was giving off confident body language, while not being aware that she was not interested in him. In essence, he was clueless about his ability to “pick-up this chick”.

You could easily tell from the bored look in her eye, that she was looking for an opportunity to get away from this loser.

What’s funny was he was actually a decent looking, well dressed guy. So obviously his problem wasn’t his presentation. Instead he was doing a few things which were instantly turning her off and killing ANY chance of attraction

If he knew about these mistakes, and corrected them, he could have easily attracted this woman.

Now if you want to NOT be like this man, then I recommend you take a close look at these 4 MAJOR dating mistakes:

Dating Mistake #1- Not reading her body language

You can discover what a woman is feeling by observing her body language. Without saying a word, a woman will tell you when she’s attracted or when she’s repulsed.

Your job is to study her body language and calibrate. For instance if you see a bored look in her eye, then you know that you have to switch tactics and change the topic of conversation.

Dating Mistake #2-Buying her affections with free drinks

One of the quickest ways to show lower status is to buy a woman a drink. Let me explain…

When you buy a woman many drinks, you’re showing that you need to purchase her attention in order to start a conversation. While sometimes it’s polite to buy a round, don’t try to please her by constantly buying her drinks.

What’s interesting is lots of other guys are great for making women drunk, but they’re doing nothing to attract them. By buying drinks, they’re simply making it easier for some other guy approach and pick them up.

Dating Mistake #3- Acting too arrogant

One of the principles I recommend in my ebook is to act in an overconfident manner. But even though this personality trait is important, you should realize that acting TOO arrogant is just as bad.

While women love men with a good amount of confidence, having too much is an instant turn off. This means if you’re dominating the conversation and bragging about your accomplishments, you’re demonstrating a specific type of behavior which infuriates women.

In order to impress a woman, all you need to do is display confidence through your actions and body language. If give off a confident aura, you don’t have to open your mouth to prove it.

Dating Mistake #4-Being a clown

Well know that many women are attracted to guys “with a sense of humor”. However it’s a mistake to act like a clown and try to do funny things around women. While it’s important to be funny, it’s equally vital to never look like a fool.

Being funny does nothing for building attraction.

Instead of trying to make her laugh, try using a technique which is known as “cocky/funny”. This personality trait means focusing on teasing a woman with a bit of mock arrogance. Basically you’re a funny guy who likes to bust a woman’s chops about various things.

By being able to identify all of four of these dating mistakes, you’ll be able increase your overall success with women. So your job is to quickly identify these mistakes and make a concerted effort to eradicate them!

Want to learn 50 different ways to meet, approach and attract women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson’s Free eBook which provides 50 tips for approaching, attracting, and dating ANY woman.

http://www.chickmagnet101.com/meet-women130.html

Sometimes it can be puzzling whether your relationship is serious or not. Men can be confusing. They are not as verbal as women. Where a woman would love to talk things out and say this is where our relationship is, men prefer to leave things unspoken. They expect a woman to pick up on their cues and simply know just how serious the relationship is. So, in order for you to figure out how serious your relationship is you have to know what signs to look for.

The following is a list of the many different ways men subtly tell you they are serious about you. Many times women simply blow them off and do not think of them as a big deal. To a man, though, they are a big deal. So, pay attention and look for these signs of a serious relationship with your man.

- Instead of saying ‘I’ he now says ‘we’. He is obviously thinking of you as a team, as a couple.
- He calls just to talk. Men rarely just chat on the phone. If he’s calling you without an agenda it means he misses you.
- He calls if he is going to be late. This is showing great respect for you. Instead of letting you sit and wonder where he is, he gives you a call to say he’s running late.
- He listens to you. This means he really listens to you. He doesn’t necessarily hang on your every word, but he is paying attention and valuing what you say.
- He has told his friends about you. This is a “major” in a man’s world. When he’s serious about something he shares it with his friends.
- He starts becoming interested in the things you do. This includes work and hobbies. If he is showing an interest in all aspects of your life then he’s serious.
- Everything is not all about sex. In the beginning you likely had wild romps that ended with him falling asleep. Now all of the sudden he wants to cuddle or just sit with you then he’s serious. He’s no longer seeing you as just someone to sleep with. He’s seeing you as someone he wants to be with.
- He is interested in your friends and family. Men do not really want to be confronted with your friends or family. He knows they are judging him. When he starts to act interested, though, this means he is wanting their acceptance, so he’s wanting to be around for quite a while.

These are just a handful of the signs men give when they are getting serious in a relationship. There’s no doubt that you are experiencing them if he really is serious about you. It can be easy to write them off, but pay attention because he’s trying to tell you he’s really in to you.

Jane Haller runs a site called http://www.Hot-Firefighters.com along with info on dating and relationships on her blog at http://www.Hot-Firefighters.com/blog2